To get sterilised?

[RocksThatIGot]

I am 32 and have two dc, age 8 and 2.

I have a boyfriend but we do not live together, and it's long distance so we only see each other every 2 weeks. I use the rhythm method of contraception, as I have done for the last 11 years, but I've recently decided that I am pretty certain I definitely don't want any more kids.

I feel like I am fighting a constant battle to not get pg. I really don't want to take any kind of hormonal contraception, and I can't have a copper coil as I'm allergic to copper. I am going to be studying from sept for the next 4 years, then hopefully starting a rewarding career. The thought of getting pregnant again makes me really anxious and I wonder if sterilisation might be the best way forward.

My bf says he really wants to have a baby with me but he already has 3 with different mothers so not the best track record. I got pg for the first time 10 years ago and I now feel its time to try and make something of my life and give the kids I do have the best life I can, not have any more.

Do you think I'm a bit nuts to be considering this at my age?

Your going to get pregnant again, if you don't sort out proper contraception. Good luck.

So you don't use condoms, or any contraception other than the rythem method, surprisingly you fell pregnant and aborted it because of your irresponsible view on contraception... my first
Get sterilised if you don't want to use contraception and are using abortion as a solution.

Just as an aside I asked my doctor about being sterilised and i was turned down for funding because I havent tried every other form of contraception going.So you may not get your wish anyway.

I think sterilisation is a bit final at your age. There are reliable methods around and you need to chat to GP.

And you definatly need to dump the boyfriend. He sounds a twat.

On snc the rhythm method is about as good as cross fingers.

Tbh if you were 100% certain you didnt want anymore children full stop. You wouldnt have to ask the question.
I was sterilised at 24 after my second baby . Its a decision I have never regretted.
I absolutely knew I could not contemplate another pregnancy even if Brad Pitt offered to be the father. You have to be absolutely sure. Do not do it if you can see yourself with another child in the future. In the meantime sort out effective contraception.

What differentnameforthis said (Thu 28-Mar-13 01:23:34).

A quick google and glance at the BBC among other sources suggests that condoms when properly used are 98% effective. It's harder to get a consensus on the rhythm method as there is a lot of very pro- and anti- information, but WebMD says 75-87% effective. So you are very likely to be improving your level for protection by using condoms.

don't get sterilised. Do get shot of the Jeremy Kyle boyfriend. 3 kids by 3 women is proper scummer territory. Who knows what you might want in a future with a decent partner?