Very lighthearted AIBU - but am I unreasonable?! Is it normal?!

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My DS is 22 months old. DP yesterday had a day at home to do work on the computer, so I was doing my normal routine when it comes to DS - we'd play, then watch cartoons, then lunch, then naptime, then he'll play on his own while I get on with housework etcetc...

All going swimmingly until...
DP: JESUS CHRIST! Do you ever STOP TALKING?!?! (with a massive grin on his face)
Me: Eh?! Say what now?
DP: You haven't bloody shut up all day, you'll run out of words in a minute!
Us: Arfarfarf gigglegigglegiggle.

Turns out I'm on my own with DS so much that I've got a running commentary going in English and Pidgeon Welsh! "Look at the pili pala! Isn't it pretty? Are you having fun playing gyda trains ! Awww, ti'n hoffi chwarae trains! Dai iawn! Nah, bach, you can't play here, mami doing the ironing! Mami smwthio!" and on and on!

Is this just a normal "mum stuck at home" thing? I've never been one for complete silence and DP thinks it's hilarious that I'm essentially talking to myself all day long. Is it unreasonable? I didn't even realize the extent to which I was doing it!

I feel quite embarrassed now!

Completely normal I hope I chunter away to myself my two toddlers all the time, which is a bit embarrassing when your realise you're doing it in tesco. I am very embarrassed that other people think I'm a 'loud parent' - I'm really not doing it for others, I barely know I'm doing it.

Keep talking. It will be helping your DCs language development :)

Hahaha

Keep talking to him!

And reply to your DH,"JESUS CHRIST! Do you ever SY ANYTHING POSITIVE?!"

How would toddlers learn to talk if their mothers didn't babble away all day without expecting an answe?

Perfectly normal. In fact it's very good for your DS to be talked to (as long as you give him a chance to answer, which I assume you do).

I used to have very long involved conversations with dd2 right from day one, frequently making up her answers to me because otherwise I felt like a loon

It isn't even like I'm talking directly to DS at some points, I'll start running through the list of things that I need to do... OUT LOUD! It's like I've given birth and along with my figure I've lost my inner monologue!

Thankfully DP is really understanding about it, he finds it so bloody funny!

Totally normal. I think it's startling that my husband is not more like that!

I chat to my dog

"Oh puppy, let's make your dinner, ooh puppy likes some biscuits to go with his dinner. My, what a greedy puppy. "

He looks at me like this

My DS didn't talk until late so it was a continual monologue all day every day, of running commentries and rhetorical questions. We even used to count the stairs..........

Naysa I do that too and I firmly believe she loves it.

My kids are all at school and playschool now but I chat to the cats all day instead.

Poor dp comes home from dealing with customers all day and just wants some peace and quiet and I've been stuck talking to myself all day so launch at him babbling like a maniac as I'm so relieved to have another adult to speak to

I do the same, but with my cats. So much so that I wouldn't be terribly surprised if they started talking back. Yanbu

I'm temporarily living back at home with my mother and she still does this! I'm 32 ffs. She does not draw breath from the minute she wakes til she goes to be. I have been known to occasionally say "it's quiet time now". The constant blithering drives me bonkers.

I announced to my DH yesterday that "mummy is going wee wee". Needless to say I got a bit of an odd look!

I do the same. Keep finding myself blowing Dh noisy kisses when my lb is in bed.

I've never announced to him that I'm going for a wee wee though. That's quite funny.

lol i am the exact same! sounds completely normal to me!

Apparently (according to research) communication like you've described encourages positive attachment and reinforces good infant mental health. So carry on!

As a DH, I'm no expert (we're awaiting our first DC in June) but I'd imagine this is not just normal but fairly important to the development of a child's language and communication skills? If you spent all day in silence, children would never learn to talk!!!

OP, are you me?! I do exactly that, down to the pigeon-Welsh & pili pala obsession! DS flaps his hands & hyperventilates whenever I mention pili palas. It's so cute!

Its normal, its how a baby/toddler learns language

Jojo! Mine does too! And we've learnt how dinosaurs go - when I point at one he'll stomp both his feet, make claws with his hands and go RAWRRR! I've never loved anything more. It's so freaking cute!

Squishy that is hilarious.

I do the exact same thing with my 2 year old and 4 month old - including switching between Welsh and English at random!

da iawn i ti!

It's good for them. I do it all the time, out and about, in the supermarket. Its kind of partly talking to myself.

"We need to buy some more bananas because naughty daddy ate them all up."

I did this yesterday in Asda in a part of town where I've noted most people don't talk to their little children much, apart from bellowing "get 'ere naaaaa" at them. Yes, that sounds very judgy, but its an observation. And yes i'm being snobby. My point being I probably stood out a bit.

When I talk to DS my accent disappears and I sound a bit posh and sing-songy, like a children's TV presenter.