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To think that I shouldn't put up with this

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 05/03/2013 20:26

general laziness and lack of respect from dp?

Amongst other things, I've just cooked him dinner, told him it was on the table, and he said he'd be there in s minute. An hour has passed and it's freezing cold now. I feel like crying as I'd asked him if I should heat it all up (cooked earlier so dc could have some) or put some in freezer and he didn't tell me then to put it in freezer as he wasn't going to have it. When I asked him a couple of times if he was going to eat it, he said "I'll throw it at you in a minute, if you keep asking". Sad

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Lucyellensmum95 · 05/03/2013 20:32
Shock
KateDWales · 05/03/2013 20:33

What exactly is he doing that's so important? I wouldn't bother cooking for him again until he can appreciate it and actually eat it! And throw it at you? Wtf! Is he like this regularly? if my husband said he would throw it at me, It would have gone in the bin and he would have been thrown out!

Lucyellensmum95 · 05/03/2013 20:33

Is he usually so aggressive?

gobbin · 05/03/2013 20:34

It's at that last comment that it would've been in the bin in my house, assisted by my own fair hand.

Shenanagins · 05/03/2013 20:35

Don't bother cooking for him until he learns that his response was not acceptable and apologises.

Casmama · 05/03/2013 20:36

Bin it and don't cook for him again till you get a grovelling apology. Is he always such a rude twat?

AnyFucker · 05/03/2013 20:37

Erk, what a nasty twat

Has he threatened you before ?

GregBishopsBottomBitch · 05/03/2013 20:37

No you shouldnt, dont do anything for him, til he learns to appreciate you, how rude and uncalled for.

Seabright · 05/03/2013 20:42

Amongst other things? If this is standard behaviour you need to take actio (and stop cooking)

WhataMistakeaToMakea · 05/03/2013 20:45

Bin it.

ClippedPhoenix · 05/03/2013 20:46

He'd throw it at you would he indeed OP.

I'd put it right in the bin along with him to be honest.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 05/03/2013 20:47

Bin. And lock the refrigerator. Twat.

IAmLouisWalsh · 05/03/2013 20:47

Well, he'll get very good at making his own dinner from now on... knobhead. Pour it down his pants.

Airwalk79 · 05/03/2013 20:49

It would be in the dog, and just sort yourself and the kids out.
Cheeky git, see how long it takes him to apologise, and make him sweat!

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 05/03/2013 20:49

Do you cook every night? If DH said something like that to me he wouldn't have his dinner made again until I'd received a grovelling apology and a decent explanation about why he'd been so rude.

StuntGirl · 05/03/2013 20:50

It would have gone straight in the bin and he could make himself his own supper if that's how he wants to behave.

Then I'd be having a pretty serious chat with him about respect.

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 05/03/2013 20:50

Oh I don't know, I do love him and he's lovely to me most of the time but I can't help feeling that he doesn't respect me enough, hence not even batting an eyelid after saying such horrible things.

I just went downstairs to find him heating it up, which equals re-reheating, which may equal the shits.......Grin

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KateDWales · 05/03/2013 20:56

Not batting an eyelid says to me he doesn't care what he's said or how he's made you feel. I would sort it or get rid. And being lovely to you "most of the time" isn't good enough, should be all the time.

AnyFucker · 05/03/2013 20:56

Your call if you are happy to be treated as lower than a second rate commis chef/waitress with a vagina

ClippedPhoenix · 05/03/2013 20:59

You mention lack of respect, it's a big deal in a relationship.

Does he think that a man is head of the household?

Does he think that women nag?

Does he think that he's the "breadwinner"?

Lucyellensmum95 · 05/03/2013 21:07

with any luck he'll get food poisoning!

GregBishopsBottomBitch · 05/03/2013 21:10

and a really bad case of the shits, the stuff thats so watery, you dont feel it coming.

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BlackholesAndRevelations · 05/03/2013 21:11

Clipped- maybe re: him being the breadwinner. I work bloody hard but most of my money goes on childcare. I know he loves me and he doesn't seem to realise he's being disrespectful. I go through phases sometimes of wondering wtf to do about it because I do love him and he loves me, and I don't want to leave him! But clearly I can't put up with being spoken to like this.

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OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly · 05/03/2013 21:13

Why doesn't his money go on child care if he's the "breadwinner"?

ENormaSnob · 05/03/2013 21:14

What a prick.