To expect teacher to call back

[Ghanagirl]

Found a letter in my five year old DS book bag saying he has been selected for a social skills group at school to help support self esteem help with social skills and prevent bullying, I wasn't aware he was having problems, he is reading about average whereas his twin sister is way above but I encourage him to read and also do the things he likes piano football, really worried left message for learning support teacher who issued letter, asking her to call but she hasn't returned my call really worried as DS asked if he'd been naughty when I discovered letter

When did you ring her?

Maybe she didn't get the message or maybe she didn't get it straight away. Ring her back.

Depends on when you rang tbh. I'd give her 48 hours.

What WorraLiberty said. Teachers are extremely busy people.

How long since you rang her? If you rang only yesterday then you are being a bit unreasonable!

The teachers will be busy I presume. Can you not pop into school when you pick up dc?

She may well be waiting to see you when pick up today, if you don't hear by Monday I'd ask the receptionist to make an appointment to see her. If she is teaching today she's not going to be able to ring you until after school and a phonecall isn't as good as face to face anyway.

Teachers IME don't call back until after school and classes all dismissed, also a lot of the time are talking to parents who have waited to see them at the end of the day so I wouldn't expect a call back before 4pm either the day or day after I left a message dependant on whether said teacher runs afterschool activities.

It depends when you called her.

She might want to speak with the class teacher/Senco first to make sure that she can answer your questions fully;

She might not have received the message;

She might have been in meetings/teaching all morning;

She might be out on a training day/at an external meeting and not in school;

She might have just not had the opportunity;

She might have got caught up in something else and just not have remembered to do it yet.

You would have been better to email tbh. I answer emails more or less immediately but tend to wait until the end of the day/free period to call a parent back as I need to clear time to make the call.

Try not to worry and tell ds not to worry.

Maybe he is shy or sometimes doesn't know how to act in some social situations - sharing, taking turns, listening or something like that.

Wait until you see her and keep calm. You'll find out soon.

Not all schools use an email system

Neither of my DS's schools do

They prefer you to ring and then the teacher will get back to you at the end of the day or sooner in an emergency.

My son's school don't use email either, I think that is more common in secondary as there is no face to face opportunity to see teachers.

Depends when you rang - primary teachers are usually on the go all day. As for the group - I think you are worrying unnecessarily. The group will be a small one of about 6, where the children may do things such as play turn taking and team games together, make a group book, talk together about things that interest them. It will be lovely! It will be a chance for your son to have time in a smaller group to give him more confidence to join in. Perhaps he is a bit shy or quiet in class, he might find it harder to share his ideas in a bigger group. This is really common and nothing to worry about. Sounds like the school has the chance/ resources to set aside time for a smaller group to work together with the TA. I think your son will enjoy it. I would be really pleased if my DD was given this opportunity (speaking as a teacher, who knows how much the children love similar groups we run at school.)

You might find as well, that he is actually one of the stronger ones. These groups need a mix of children who need social skill support and those who can model positive social skills.