To not do a play date for a boy ds doesn't like?

[ilikeyoursleeves]

Ds1 is 5 years old and started school in August. He initially played everyone but more with a boy, lets call him Jack, but Jack is constantly in trouble at school and DS says 'he's silly and never listens, is always in trouble and ruins everything'. So ds doesn't really play with him now. Jack has other friends (i see them playing at lunchtime when i take ds2 to nursery) so he's not on his own.

I chat to jacks mum frequently at the gates and she seems really nice if not often a bit stressed by her sons behaviour. Shes said in passing that jack and my son should have a play date soon but we've never arranged anything. I asked ds1 if he wanted jack to come over and he said no because he is so naughty at school.

AIBU to avoid a play date then? I feel for the mum but don't think my son should have to play with kids he's not friends with?

Seeker-hmmmm. I object to the superfluous reference to a bowl of pasta.

I don't see the point in inviting any child round unless your child actually asks for a particular child to come round. The wishes of this mum are irrelevent. "ruins everything" doesn't sound like a positive comment. I probably would tell the mum that they don't seem to get on any more if she is persistent. It's sad this kid is a bit of a pain, but my kids aren't there as therapy for naughty kids no-one else wants to play with.

I never made ds play with any one he didn't want tp.
he picked his friends.....
a few had sn a few didn't (ds is nt)
so yanbu

I go Wth what others have said, meet up on nutural territory sch as park or soft play