to think that this was offensive

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It was 1 of those stupid photos with a caption. It said, "It's not rape, it's surprise sex. Surprise!!" Now that in itself is bad enough but i am in the middle of a rape investigation that happened years ago and only now have i had the nerve to do something about it. She knows this. I made a comment about it and that was deleted.

Even without knowing a friend is in a situation like yours that is highly offensive. YANBU. Any 'friend' of mine posting such vile 'jokes' would be rapidly binned. Sorry you had to read that and feel the way you did.

YANBU, that is offensive.

Not 'just' offensive. Horrible, mean, insensitive and nasty. Defriend.

It's bloody awful - and so much worse because of what you are going through, OP.

Ugh. :(

I just get made to feel that i should have been grateful that it happened. Clearly sex can only be a good thing.

The thing is now i dont want any (after years of giving it away since that was better than it being taken) and i get spoken to like im weird

That is awful. Rape is such a brutal crime that it should never be played down.

yes it absoloytely was offensive. that person would no longer be afriend of mine.

Im a complete wimp. I just cant do confrontation. I did post a message but it was just deleted so she was happy for people to see the picture, just not my comment on it

Defriend instantly OP, poor you and what a cow your "friend" is. I pray she's never a victim of surprise sex.

I would unfriend that person. Also, if this is FB, report her post. Sadly, FB is notoriously bad at taking down images harmful to women, but it can't hurt to try. I reported a friend's picture of some naked Santas the other day and it was removed. But these were naked men, so FB probably responded faster than it would have done if they were women.

Get rid of that person on your list after a scathing message explaining why you are doing it. Surprise sex indeed. Vomit

Yanbu. I'm sorry you are going through this. I would defriend her, also worse that a woman sent it. Idiot.

YANBU, that's extremely offensive.

What Ariel said.

Just delete this person. Life is too short to have to deal with 'friends' like that.

I just feel very sad that my supposed best friend did this. I really hurts that she is showing how she really feels in this way.

That is disgusting for anyone to post but especially someone you considered a good friend who knows what you are going through.

She's not a friend op, and she's not a good person either.

YANBU!

Awful. And the fact that she deleted your comment yet kept the picture up, doubly awful.

Not something a friend would do.

That's not a friend, never mind a best one. That's a person with no brain.

Defriend her on FB and stop talking to her in real life. You don't need a friend like that.

A female person posted this?

It's beyond offensive.

I am utterly astounded.

You do not need "freinds" like this on FB or in real life.

With friends like that....

Defriend her. She's a moron.

Stupid, offensive, aggressive, misogynistic crap.

So sorry you are going through this. Free yourself from this idiot - delete, defriend, focus on surrounding yourself with more enlightened people.