to hate my husband being I'll.

[MrsJingleBells74]

DH has a nasty cold & has been off work for 2 days. He just sits there with a pitiful look on his face, whimpers every time he moves & gets snarly if I ask him to do anything, but won't just go to bed. I also have a poorly toddler with a cold & diarrhoea & a very snuffly 11 week old who fed every 2 hours last night.

I'm tired & would quite like to run out the front door & not come back.

And now I'm cross my phone changed ill to I'll

oh god dh had man flu last week

shall i tell you why they REFUSE to go to bed?? Its so you will feel more sorry for them if they are sat under your feet with a face like a smacked arse

yet, when we are ill, we just Get On With It.

I'm not particularly sympathetic to ill adults. Don't know why as I expect sympathy when I'm ill.

So, YANBU to not like your dh being ill. However, perhaps you should give him the choice of 'bed or help out'.

He's just said to me 'sorry I've suddenly come over all pathetic' I had to bite my tongue not to say 'what do you mean suddenly?'

'what do you mean suddenly?'

Oh, thou cruel and heartless woman.

I DID bite my tongue though & didn't say it, that would have been worse!

The rule in my house is act normal or go to bed. Huffing, puffing, looking pathetic, pitiful sniffling etc are Absolutely Banned.

YANBU! My lovely DP turns into a simpering toddler when ill. It drives me insane.

I was brought up in a family where we all took ourselves off to bed when ill and wanted to be left alone.

He was not. He has stated I'm more Angel of Death than Florence Nightingale. .

YANBU - it drives you fecking insane.

'what do you mean suddenly?'

DH was up in the middle of the night with D&V which seems to be food poisoning as me and DD have been ok [so far] so his last 'movement' was early this morning and he's been on the sofa watching shit on tv and winding up DD and then complaining ALL DAY.

I told him to go to bed upstairs as we do have a tv in our room [last watched the night I went into labour] and it would mean DD wouldn't be running into him every two seconds and pissing him off.

But no, that would mean I wouldn't hear his moaning and groaning and poor me. He's got a headache, but that could be from not drinking enough water, he wants a cup of tea and thinks I'm being mean not allowing him to have one, but won't drink the sodding water that I brought in for him.

Needless to say, spent the last 18 weeks puking pretty much everything I ate or drank with sodding MS, 21 weeks now and it seems to have passed. But, of course, I have no idea what it's like being sick like that.

CailinDana are we related? That is exactly what my family are all like. It's an excellent rule.

My husband sat on the sofa wrapped in a blanket all weekend, coughing and hacking and looking ill. Refused to take anything for it. I see lurgy as an excuse to take lots of drugs.

:) what do you mean suddenly. Agree about being Angel of Death.

My DH has a broken leg. He lies on the sofa all day with a pitiful look on his face. Hes got man flu too now and it's feckin awful.

You should enjoy this. I don't know how they kept straight faces making it. I don't know if it would only be enjoyed by an Irish audience but here goes...
m.youtube.com/watch?v=6keUdzwFCHU

I hate it when my DH is ill.

He's so competitive that I can't be ill in peace, he always has to have it worse; but he never just gets on with it, he spends his time hogging the couch, groaning and pulling sad faces.

If you're that ill, go to bloody bed, take some Night Nurse and stop with the sad faces!

My DH has also been ill, also not a fan, he got totally ignored yesterday as I looked after our 19 month old & 3 month old. I was then ill last night and he's spent all night and day being really attentive, feel like a bit of a cruel hearted bitch now.

Hopefully, they'll all be better soon.

Mine s had a chest infection since last week. Says he can t eat as it makes him feel sick and is on the sofa. He whines and coughs and pulls faces and then tries standing up and then bends over holding his stomach and looks around to make sure people are looking. It s the most irritating performance and everything and anything I say will be taken the wrong way. He now hasn't eaten anything for more than two days and says how weak he feels. What the hell am I suppose to do with him?

I am so glad it's not just me and my upbringing (which was great obviously!) and it is him! I am not alone

I wish I could show him this post but he definitely wouldn't see the funny side and would nt even realise he was one of these pathetic creatures. He considers himself to be tough!

Well karma's a bitch. I have a cracking headache, sore throat & can't seem to get warm, looks like I'm heading the same way.

Plonk yourself on the sofa, sniffle loudly and make weak groaning/or coughing noises every once in a while, just to remind him you're really ill. Oh and demand cups of tea on tap, and dominate the tv all day

In fairness this isn't just a man thing, I know some equally pathetic women!

Leave the bastard! But only until he's over it. My Dp is exactly the same. He can stretch 'flu' out for weeks

The really annoying thing is, if I'm sick, DH is very good but if I don't complain constantly about how sick I am he assumes I'm better . In his mind unless you're doubled over every time you cough (yes, he does this, I should film it and mortify the life out of the eejit), moaning, groaning, sniffling etc then you're fine. I might feel horrible but I just get on with it, I don't see the point in sitting on the couch playing a plague victim from Horrible Histories, but then of course I get no extra help/sympathy! Can't win.