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to think this should be replaced.

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lloyds011 · 10/12/2012 06:43

Dd has just broken my camera. It was a birthday present. Dh said he will get a new one for xmas. Aibu to say no i want it replaced it addition to xmas gift. We do have another camera but i hate using it as it is so big. Money not an issue as he has just brought a new tablet for himself. Aibu.

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EuphemiaInExcelsis · 10/12/2012 07:20

YANBU! That would be the shittiest Christmas present ever.

olddogs · 10/12/2012 07:24

he broke your camera he needs to replace it...
how does christmas come into this at all?

Unless he broke it on purpose so that he would have something to buy you cos he cant think of anything else and up until it was broken you didnt need a camera?

sashh · 10/12/2012 07:26

Dd should be replacing it (Don't know how old dd is, if she is 6 months then maybe that's a big ask).

RiddoTheRedNosedReindeer · 10/12/2012 07:27

YANBU

Northernexile · 10/12/2012 08:49

Erm, why should your DH replace it? Replace it yourself, or use joint money, then Christmas need not come into it. Your OP sounds a bit demanding and graspy to be honest!

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lloyds011 · 10/12/2012 09:23

I am a SAHM so all money is joint money. DD is 6 so could possible contribute some but it was an accident.
And yes I could just go out and buy a new one as I do have full access to joint funds and that is what i will probably do.
It just seemed cheeky of dh to suggest I foregoe a Christmas present because dd broke my birthday present.

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Jins · 10/12/2012 09:26

I suppose it depends how important a Christmas present is to you.

I wouldn't be too bothered by this

SledsImOn · 10/12/2012 09:28

I suppose yes in principle it should be as well as present, not instead of.

but tbh I don't want or expect Christmas presents now I'm an adult, it's more about the kids. So I'd not be kicking up a stink. just buying another camera.

I imagine your H would buy himself another computer if she broke that - so no difference. Or does he not really expect presents either?

I kind of tend to buy myself the things I need or want, regardless of time of year.

SledsImOn · 10/12/2012 09:30

What I mean is, is this an equality issue rather than a camera issue iyswim

Is he expecting more from you than he is willing to give

Or would he be happy to have a replacement as a Christmas present, if the situation were reversed?

Northernexile · 10/12/2012 09:30

Definitely get yourself one then. Your DH was probably happy because it would have saved him having to actually think of something to get you for Christmas. That's how mine operates anyway! Grin

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lloyds011 · 10/12/2012 09:30

He definately expects presents. Draws up a list every year without fail.

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VoiceofUnreason · 10/12/2012 09:31

He is being unreasonable UNLESS he takes the opportunity to spend twice as much and get you a much better camera so it is both a replacement and a present.

SledsImOn · 10/12/2012 09:31

Okay. So it's about double standards. In that case yanbu at all. Ask him how he would feel and go from there.

I do kind of gulp at the idea of a grown up person with a Christmas list though.

TrillsCarolsOutOfTune · 10/12/2012 09:32

You should both have equal money to spend on yourselves.

He just bought a tablet, you say? Do you have a tablet's worth of money to spend as you please?

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lloyds011 · 10/12/2012 09:33

Ultimately the purchase of the tablet was because the home pc is getting slow and unreliable so yes I do think I should replace camera and still do Christmas. Although I agree Christmas is now more about dc and I do have arrangements with siblings where we do not exchange presents.

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 10/12/2012 09:37

If it was broken in February would you get it replaced or wait and get one for xmas?

YANBU! Just because its december doesnt mean it should automatically be a present.

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lloyds011 · 10/12/2012 09:39

That the way his family do it sleds. It drives me mad when I get phone calls from MIL asking for present ideas. This year it was in the middle of November. DH won't even buy me spontanous stuff even after 14 years marriage.
I woudn't want to spend that much money as there isn't really anything I need that expensive. Although having seen the tablet and the way dh hogs it I may have to buy a cheaper one and the camera. (would still be alot less)

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olddogs · 11/12/2012 08:30

we dont do spontaneous gifts here either and it saddens me. MIL gives DD the argos catalog and gets her to pick Sad. in her defence she is house bound

GoldPlatedNineDoors · 11/12/2012 08:40

Isnt this the second thread you have Started on this OP?

Hyperballad · 11/12/2012 08:47

I guess this depends on how things are usually done, if this happened to me and my DP said he would buy another ins for Christmas, I would take it that that's just the perfect time to replace it (rather than me having to wait longer for it) and I'd also know that I'd receive some other gifts too.

You sound a bit like a stroppy teenager to me OP!

fuzzpig · 11/12/2012 08:49

I am having thread déjà vu too, GPND!

brandysoakedbitch · 11/12/2012 08:50

Are you 12? Jesus, get a bloody grip.

diddl · 11/12/2012 08:52

Well if he just bought a tablet-wtf does he want a Christmas present for as well??

I´d be happy enough to have the camera as a Christmas present.

You both sound a bit childish tbh-"he´s getting a Christmas present so I want one too!"

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