The other night I gave DH fair warning that i had certain marital 'needs' and he promised me a 'banquet' in which our tastes would both be indulged with time set aside to savour and enjoy them. Time ticked by on the evening in question the latter part of which he spent fiddling with his phone. it got until a good bit past my usual bed time (having to get up early for work) before he finally camed to bed and made a hurried token gesture falling far short of what had been arranged. I refused and he's had the audacity to call me the villain? AIBU?