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to only give purees to 8mo DS

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ElectrifiedTrack · 14/11/2012 15:34

DS was weaned at 5mo and started on finger foods at 7. Had a lot of gags (every other day), the odd cough and splutter. Then last week he was tucking into some veg strips and started to choke. Badly. He was silent, growing purple, eyes bulging for a good 30 secs-1 min while I did very strong back blows (TG for reading up on this), then finally brought it up. It scared the living shit out of me.

Since then I have only given him lumpy purees and the odd baby biscuit/those dissolvable puffs etc. I really really can't go back to finger foods. Not at the moment. I feel I know my child and he just isn't ready. Is this going to harm him? I really honestly just cannot steel my nerves and get back on the finger foods yet.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 14/11/2012 15:35

Won't harm him... just make the food manageably lumpy rather than perfectly smooth or he won't get the hang of chewing anything.

PeshwariNaan · 14/11/2012 15:36

No, it's not going to harm him. My friend's baby is very similar to yours. She purees him food because self-feeding made him choke. He's 10 months.

MyLastDuchess · 14/11/2012 15:38

We did BLW with our son but if I had had an experience like yours I'm sure I would feel the same way! YANBU, take it slowly. It won't help your son if you are on the edge of your seat at every mealtime.

Mrsjay · 14/11/2012 15:38

of course it isnt going to harm him you must have been terrified at him choking babies do gag but he did seem to choke, listen before babyled weaning came about people pureed babies food and I have yet to see a grown up who cant chew their dinner make it lumpier as the weeks go on he iwll be fine

ihavenofuckingclue · 14/11/2012 15:44

Its not going to harm him.

But you need to gradually make the food lumpier (is that how you would spell it). If you leave it too long he may start rejecting it.

Just do it really slowly.

Mrsjay · 14/11/2012 15:45

yes i agree just out more lumps mash rather than puree I think lumpier is a word you know OP dont be scared of feeding him just to it gradual and he will be ok

ihavenofuckingclue · 14/11/2012 15:46

you leave it too long he may start rejecting it.

Sorry that wasn't clear. I mean if you leave it to long he may reject the Lumpier food when you introduce it. He does need to learn to chew.

YoullScreamAboutItOneDay · 14/11/2012 15:46

Of course not. Just go gentle re introducing them. You are perfectly reasonable, but you would not want to create a real fear for you or food issues for him by leaving it toooo long.

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ElectrifiedTrack · 14/11/2012 15:48

Thank you, just get the feeling from lots of BLW stuff I've read that you are just supposed to persevere through choking incidents and that not finger feeding after they reach 6 months is this terrible thing.

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valiumredhead · 14/11/2012 15:50

Ds was still on purees at that age - mixed with baby rice. Used to make them lumpy rather than smooth. He was prem so a bit behind with eating habits.

5dcsinneedofacleaner · 14/11/2012 15:50

My dd is 8 months and only just started having lumpier foods. My older children were eating a wider range of foods by now but like you I felt my dd was struggling so went back to purees for a couple of weeks before trying again and she seems fine now. I would give it 2 weeks and then try the lumpier foods again.

valiumredhead · 14/11/2012 15:51

You can still give things to gnaw on like bread sticks etc just til you both get confident again.

Mrsjay · 14/11/2012 15:52

that not finger feeding after they reach 6 months is this terrible thing.

no it isn't an awful thing and you are givng him biscuits and those crisp things so he is getting stuff to hold can you give him squishy food like banana so he can chew that, please dont worry about BLW and just feed your baby

Ferino · 14/11/2012 15:53

What the others said ^

DD is 13 mo and has only just cut her first tooth so there are a lot of things she can't eat because she can't tear or bite into food properly. She was on smooth food with soft lumps for ages. (Having a fussy phase now where she'll eat cut up lumps but absolutely not if they are mixed up with an otherwise smooth food!). Apparently I was the same cutting teeth very late and was on purées for a long time. No harm done!
Well done for dealing with the frightening choking episode, by the way! Make progress with the food when you are feeling braver and when you are happier DS is OK with the chewing etc

YoullScreamAboutItOneDay · 14/11/2012 15:53

No. Gagging is normal. Choking is scary. It is like if your child falls off the slide- you are likely to be more cautious than other parents for a while.

Actually some BLW advocates think you need to be especially careful about choking with a baby who has also has puree as they are more used to sucking things.fast to the back of the throat. Just go gentle. Don't. feel you need to rush.

valiumredhead · 14/11/2012 15:54

I am old school and never did BLW - I just 'fed my baby', that involved a bit of everything we were both happy with.

Mrsjay · 14/11/2012 15:55

I just 'fed my baby', that involved a bit of everything we were both happy with.

thats what I did bit of this bit of that some mushy some not so much

FeckOffWithYourXmasBollocks · 14/11/2012 15:55

*you leave it too long he may start rejecting it.

Sorry that wasn't clear. I mean if you leave it to long he may reject the Lumpier food when you introduce it. He does need to learn to chew*

Really? Are there many people out there who have no ability to chew?
What a load of old cobblers!

mrscog · 14/11/2012 15:56

It's terrifying isn't it? I gave my 8mo DS a big wedge of pear last week, thinking that he'd just suck bits off but he actually chewed off a perfect choke size piece and then did actually choke on it (he did gag as well, but I could tell there was a terrifying window of 10 seconds when he couldn't breathe :( ).

I am now being super careful - he already eats mashed foods rather than purees but I'm only doing finger foods which are very chewable or crumbly until I get my confidence back! He had falafel for lunch which was a really good finger food as it crumbled and was a bit chewy for him.

valiumredhead · 14/11/2012 15:58

I was a nanny for years so weaned a few babies - all had purees much longer than they probably would these days - they all managed to learn to chew

WilsonFrickett · 14/11/2012 15:59

BLW hadn't been invented in the dark ages so I started on purees. Around 8 months (I think!) I started making everything lumpier, baby got ill with a viral thing and started rejecting the lumpier food, I went back to smooth for a month or so, then re-introduced lumps. (btw, DS is 7! BLW is a fairly new thing)

And he chews fine now!

Don't worry OP. The main thing is not to build it up into a huge deal. Well done on knowing what to do about the choking.

Mrsjay · 14/11/2012 15:59

probably back then inthedarkages valium weaning was very different yet people are still able to chew

valiumredhead · 14/11/2012 16:00

Actually, I do remember a pretty radical nanny who weaned a child on grated apple - we all thought she was bonkers. She was way ahead of her time

HappyJustToBe · 14/11/2012 16:01

You'll get to eating "proper" food even if it takes that bit longer. Hope you're ok, that must have been quite a shock.

valiumredhead · 14/11/2012 16:01

You coped with the choking well OP, well done!

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