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about my husband's snoring?????

67 replies

NoTeaForMe · 12/11/2012 00:04

He won't stop fucking snoring! I have moved him, told him to stop (I know this doesn't work, but neither does anything else) , shaken him, woken him. I've ran out of options so now I have moved to sleep in the spare room...I haven't told him and I have left the monitor with him!

What I would like to do is stab him in the throat, AIBU?!

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StuntGirl · 12/11/2012 00:06

Sleep deprivation is horrible :( Does he always snore? Has he tried anything to help it?

NoMoreMarbles · 12/11/2012 00:07

Maybe a bit...but my DH is currently sleeping and SBDing every few minutes so I also want to get stabby! It's disgusting!

ChippingInLovesAutumn · 12/11/2012 00:08

I know it's bloody annoying, but it's not as though he can help it is he?

Will he wake if the baby needs someone? If not, I'd go back & get the monitor.

What 'anti snoring' things has he tried?
Does he only snore on his back?

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 12/11/2012 00:10

I think if you have tried other options, a trip to the GP might be in order.

Crikeyblimey · 12/11/2012 00:13

My dh is a former snorer, you have my every sympathy.

Stabbing should be allowed under these circumstances but sadly it isn't.

Wake him up and tell him not to go to sleep again until you are asleep.

Dh stopped snoring when he lost loads of weight and got fitter. Not saying your dh is a fat bastard or anything.

Hope he shuts up soon.

Foosyerdoos · 12/11/2012 00:14

Yes and no, trying to sleep with a snorer is awful and I feel your pain. However as a snorer myself it is so annoying to be continually berated for something you have no control over. There is not a great deal you can do to stop it and when I asked the Gp about it she did not really take it seriously. Perhaps occasional separate rooms is a good idea, especially when feeling sleeped deprived, but he can't really help snoring.

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NoTeaForMe · 12/11/2012 00:16

SBDing? What's that?

He doesn't try anything because he says nothing works! He used to snore a lot but did get better but it's worse again now, I haven't had a full nights sleep in over a week-all because of him!

He'll wake to the baby actually she's a toddler we just keep the monitor on out of habit really! the spare room is right next to hers so I'll probably wake too!

He gets so huffy with me when I wake him and tell him to change position-like I'm waking him for fun. It's worse on his back but he's snoring away on his side right now!

Not to drip feed but I'm 13 weeks pregnant too, regardless of this I don't think IABU to want o kill him!

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NoTeaForMe · 12/11/2012 00:18

He was better when he was regularly going to the gym but he doesn't go as much anymore as he has changed jobs and is busier. I'll have to tell him to start going again!

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Nuttyfilly · 12/11/2012 00:22

Oh my stabbing so should be aloud! My dp snores really bad to! Some nights I have thought about smothering him with the pillow! I try and leave him snoring on the sofa and dive of to bed before him, if I get to sleep before him it's fine.

iklboo · 12/11/2012 00:26

SBDing = Silent But Deadly farts

piprabbit · 12/11/2012 00:33

Has he put on a bit of weight since he stopped going to the gym? Apparently being overweight is a major cause of snoring.

squoosh · 12/11/2012 00:41

Being fit clearly helps his snoring problem. Tell him he needs to get back into exercise for the good of your marriage. Sharing a bed with a snorer does not encourage marital affection.

WelshMaenad · 12/11/2012 01:27

My dad has been a horrific snorer his entire life. He's just, at the age of 63, been diagnosed with sleep apnoea! He now sleeps with a CPAP mask on and it has changed his (well, maybe mostly Mum's!) life.

Def trip to GP!

CaliforniaLeaving · 12/11/2012 01:36

Poor poor OP I feel your pain and sleep deprivation. I too sleep with a freight train next to me and he also produces deadly farts.
I remember when DS2 was a new baby I moved his cot in our room as my mother came to visit, I was afraid the farts smelled so bad they might be toxic for the baby I laid awake most of the night worrying that I should take baby and sleep in the living room. Weird hormone brain at work, baby was fine and doesn't appear to have any damage from the toxins.

MrsHelsBels74 · 12/11/2012 01:51

I feel your pain, mine is snoring & incessantly scratching too Angry

FatimaLovesBread · 12/11/2012 01:59

I feel your pain, i'm currently 38+3 so sleeping is hard enough with the huge bump and hourly wee trips. Every time I start to drift off I seem to get jolted awake by a huge snore from DH.
I find I sleep better if I fall asleep before him, or if i'm more sleep deprived.

DH knows he's worse on his back but still insists on rolling on to his back Angry

lubeybooby · 12/11/2012 02:16

Trust me he can't help it. I suffer with the type of snoring that position doesn't really help with, and neither do nose strips and things like that. I can still snore sleeping on my front, or sitting up.

It's a jaw position thing for me apparently, and only the mouth guard type things will help. I'm yet to try them but they do apparently work - £30 in boots.

Don't keep waking him up, there's fuck all he can do.

Anyone who keeps poking me or waking me up over it is lucky not to get kicked out of my house. Grrr.

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NoTeaForMe · 12/11/2012 07:48

But why haven't you tried the mouth guard then lubey if it does apparently work shouldn't you give it a go? Presuming you have a partner?

I know the snoring isn't his fault, I really do, but oh my god it's so irritating! every time I go to drop off there's a massive snore to wake me up! He gets cross with me for moving him or waking him. Although I understand that must be irritating I do think it's really selfish to have not tried anything to make it better!

Pip I don't particularly think he has put weight on since stopping the gym, but clearly his fitness levels were higher when he was going. I have told him this morning he has to go back to the gym regularly or I'm likely to kill him! and I think if I got a judge with a snoring partner I would be let off instantly!

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FobblyWoof · 12/11/2012 08:26

We're both snorers in this house and I'm definitely worse Blush

DP doesn't mind mine too much because I was so much worse in pregnancy that he just doesn't notice my normal snore now

roguepixie · 12/11/2012 08:29

YANBU.

My DH snores. It's awful. As someone up thread said...the sleep deprivation is appalling.

I once, at 3am, after lying in bed listening to him snore for more hours than I cared to remember (wasn't home so couldn't just get up and go downstairs), threatened to kill him if he didn't shut up. I lent over him and hissed into his ear that I would end his life if he didn't stop bloody snoring. He snorted and went quiet so, maybe, on some level, hew heard me and knew his life was in danger GrinGrinGrin.

Icanhasnickname · 12/11/2012 08:56

Just want to second the weight loss advice: I starved dieted my husband untill his stopped. Now however, I am pregnant and have started snoring myself....and my husband insists on being a saint and ignoring it, only to moan in the morning. I tell him to wake me but he wont. And I know its bad because I've woken myself up with it!

bitsofmeworkjustfine · 12/11/2012 09:00

oh yes, i understand anyone who is at thier wits end through snoring, because I am too.

I recently text my husband saying... You HAVE to do something about the snoring.

I got a message back... DIVORCE?

we now have a deal... if he's keeping me awake, i keep him awake.
I know ther is something that he can do, because he hasnt deen his gp, there are spays that have worked in the past but he doesnt use them, so he CAN help it becuase he isnt helping himself

LtEveDallas · 12/11/2012 09:06

Seperate beds?

DH now sleeps in the spare - I couldn't cope with the constant snoring and refusal to go to the doctors/stop drinking/wear strips etc.

We are actually getting on much better since he moved out, because I'm not spending all day wishing him dead!

I actually dread it for days when we've got people staying, because he has to move back in. Last weekend I sent him to DD's bed, and moved her in with me because after just two nights I could have stabbed him.

Living with a snorer is shite, you have my sympathies.

SecretCervix · 12/11/2012 09:11

Wanted to kill my dp last night when he was in out of the living room to go to the toilet with a kettleful of boiling water, third time and I wrenched the bedroom door open and told him I didn't give a shiny shit if he had blocked the toilet, if he came out of that room one more time and the reason was not to come to bed, I would kick him in the nuts. Blush

Disclaimer, I am also 14 weeks pregnant. (So irrationally angry most days at the moment!)

lovelyladuree · 12/11/2012 09:51

Found out by accident that Olbas Oil on his pillow stops my DP snoring. Trouble is, whole house stinks of it now. But we do sleep well.