About snoring?

[NoNoNoMYDoIt]

I really have had enough. Boyfriend snores. I can't sleep. I am fed up

He doesn't live with me (fortunately) but it is still several nights a week

It has only started in the last few months. But I have had enough of having to decamp and sleep on the sofa (no spare bed)

AIBU?

Is he prepared to do anything about it? Common aggravants (if that's a word) are smoking, drinking and being overweight as well as mouth breathing.

My DH used to snore like a train. He had his tonsils and adenoids out and they tightened his palette somehow. Improvement lasted about 6 months! He drinks far less now but I still have to shove him onto his side to turn the volume down.

There are options but he has to be willing to try them. And as he's not affected by his snoring, his response may show you how he values the relationship.

I have had this problem and my other half went to the drs, who gave him some nose spray to try. Didn't work long term, so he sent him to the specialist. He has extra cartlidge, so was advised not to drink, eat main meal late at night and raise his head. And me to get ear plugs .... you have my sympathy !!

Total sympathy, NoNo. You end up just waiting for it to start so even if it doesn't you've likely had a few sleepless, tense, hours. I had to end up with separate bedrooms because I'm a bad sleeper at the best of times - but I appreciate you haven't got that option.

Ear plugs have saved my marriage

Get the spongey ones from Boots.

Urgh.

My ex used to make a snoring sound when he was awake but relaxing sometimes.

I feel your pain.

Silicone earplugs from Boots. Pricey but so worth it.

And send him to a specialist dentist to fit a mouth guard.

My dp has just had an operation to get rid of some bits in his nose, his snoring is less bad now but still anoying, if I can't sleep I make him sleep on the sofa.

Thanks all. Was expecting to be told I was BU. I do have problems sleeping anyway so his snoring just makes it worse and stresses me further.

He has put on a bit of weight but still isn't overweight. I think he could do with shifting it anyway but it is a tricky thing. He would rather use sprays etc. interestingly the only time I don't hear it so much is if we have both been drinking! Then I go into a deeper sleep and it is then only from about 5am that it bothers me.

I have tried earplugs but I always take them out when I fall asleep so they don't really work for me

It is getting to the point now where I just don't want him here because I can't even sleep in my own bed. And I resent that. Tbh I can still hear him when I go downstairs on the sofa as it is directly underneath my bedroom and I lie there seething. Last night I slept on a camping mat with a sleeping bag in a different room and couldn't hear him. But I am just fed up with it.

Tbh you sound quite resentful (probably because you're exhausted) - why don't you get him to sleep on the sofa.

Waxed ear plugs are brilliant - you usually find them in 'up market' chemists, but unfortunately not Boots.
You have to warm them up in the palm of your hand first, so that they mould to the shape of your ear when put in, and then they harden again.

Good luck - there is nothing worse!!

DH and I have been in separate rooms for months because of his snoring, so you have all my sympathy. DH is overweight (so am I) and as he has become bigger so the snoring has worsened. He REFUSES to go to a doctor about it and he moans about us being in separate beds.

But I need my sleep. Despite him being in another room, by the way, I still need ear plugs because it is so loud. Drives me fucking nuts.

A daily anti-histamine has sorted out my DH. It must've been a dust mite allergy. I do check he's taking them - I'm like a paranoid boyfriend checking the pill packet