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AIBU?

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Original poster

To expect some sort of reply?

33 replies

Thistledew · 25/10/2012 22:34

I posted a rant on Facebook (yes, I know) in relation to an Equal Opportunities form I had to complete, which if you did not want to state that you were either a member of a specified or "other" religion, left you with the option of ticking a box labled "no religion or belief". My rant was to the effect that almost everyone, regardless of whether or not they are religious, has some sort of belief as to why we are here, what it is all for, and what happens after.

A very religious member of my family posted in reply to my comment "wot's your world view then?". I decided to offer her the courtesy of a reply, and spent a bit of time setting out a bit of what I do believe.

Since then, nothing. No response or acknowlegement of my answer. I know she has seen my message as it is marked on my messenger app as read.

AIBU to have expected that she would make some sort of reply, even if it was just "thanks for taking the time to answer"? Especially as she is always keen to push her own religious views onto other people?

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mrscumberbatch · 25/10/2012 23:12

YABU. It's facebook!

ilovesooty · 25/10/2012 23:14

Why would anyone be bothered about not getting a response to a Facebook post?

pictish · 25/10/2012 23:15

What she said.

It's fb - don't worry about it.

MrsTerryPratchett · 25/10/2012 23:16

Blimey. No wonder people think us irreligious types are humourless, joyless, ranty bores.

WorraLiberty · 25/10/2012 23:16

Maybe she read it and it made her angry or something?

Therefore she might have thought that if she can't say something nice, she won't say anything at all.

Original poster
Thistledew · 25/10/2012 23:19

Sooty- it was the lack of acknowledgement of my PM to her that irks me, not a lack of response to something in my wall.

I suppose in future I would not be unreasonable to ignore every post she puts on my wall then? Even ones asking a direct question. I did consider this in the first place but thought it rude not to reply?

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pictish · 25/10/2012 23:20

Ah yes...the PM. The modern day equivalent of sending a telegraph by horse.

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Thistledew · 25/10/2012 23:31

Would I be unreasonable just to ignore her posts in the future? She seemed to be asking me a serious question. She is always so keen for people to hear her religious views at every opportunity that I thought she might be serious about wanting to hear mine.

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Kalisi · 25/10/2012 23:34

Maybe she read it quickly and is waiting until she has time to write a response. Seems like quite an indepth conversation to have over Facebook maybe she just can't be bothered to reply straight away...or what Worra said.

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Thistledew · 25/10/2012 23:39

It was about a week ago that I sent the message. She has been on fb many times since and has found time to comment on other stuff I posted.

Surely if you didn't want to get into a debate a quick "that was interesting, thanks for replying" would be better than ignoring it.

As for her finding it offensive, given that she on a post today implied that I will be going to hell, I don't think she is too bothered about offensiveness! Grin

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pictish · 25/10/2012 23:44

She's obviously not a rl friend of yours, so shrug it off and give no more thought to it.
Never reply to another post of hers again if it makes you feel better. It doesn't matter.

Boomerwang · 25/10/2012 23:44

Christ on a bike... nobody owes you the time of day let alone a long winded post on a subject which you are guaranteed to disagree with.

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Thistledew · 25/10/2012 23:48

She's not a RL friend, but is a RL family member. There is a history of her being fairly rude, and I was wondering if I was overreacting in feeling this was another example. Happy to accept it is perfectly normal if that is the consensus, and that I would not be being rude to ignore her in turn.

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Original poster
Thistledew · 25/10/2012 23:50

Not sure if I was clear in my OP. She was the one asking me what my views are, then failing to respond when I answered.

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pictish · 25/10/2012 23:52

I don't think she expected you to write a long reply in a private message.
I think she was being flippant.

Aspiemum2 · 25/10/2012 23:55

I think it may be a bit petty to ignore her in future on the basis of this one incident.

Bloody Facebook, honestly why do people bother?? Causes nothing but grief from what I can see

pictish · 25/10/2012 23:58

I don't get grief. I like it. I have none of this going on. I take it for what it is...a frippery.

CelineMcBean · 26/10/2012 00:10

You sound a leetle bit unhinged.

SoleSource · 26/10/2012 00:15

My belief as to why we are here is that we haven't discovered tbe reasons yet.

Original poster
Thistledew · 26/10/2012 00:27

Celine - are you my relative? [hwink]
Sole - that was kind of my point. Even if someone believes that we simply don't know the answers yet, they still believe something. They don't have a complete absence of belief.

OP posts:
LucieMay · 26/10/2012 00:35

You sound like me when a man I'm dating doesn't text me back!

LRDtheFeministDragon · 26/10/2012 00:41

Maybe she just thought you'd answered her question, so nothing more to say.

Boomerwang · 26/10/2012 00:43

I have a complete absence of belief. I don't give it much thought at all.

Bobyan · 26/10/2012 07:47

Grin Celine

ZombTEE · 26/10/2012 07:49

It's FB. Don't take it so personally or seriously.

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