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Original poster

To get stroppy with work colleagues being vile about ginger children.

99 replies

ledkr · 04/10/2012 12:18

I feel uncomfortable now but they were being really horrible about ginger babies and I have a lovely one who is gorgeous and im missing her loads today.
They tried to make light of it but I said that its attitudes like that that mean that red headed children are still bullied at school.
There is an atmosphere now in the office so I thought i'd tell you and you can all come and wait for them outside with banners and eggs Sad

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lljkk · 04/10/2012 12:21

YANBU Angry

DawnOfTheDee · 04/10/2012 12:21

What horrible people! So sorry you had to hear their inane and hurtful comments but well done for sticking up for beautiful red-headed babies!

Where are you? I will buy some eggs especially.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 04/10/2012 12:22

YANBU, well done for saying something.

SammyTheSwedishSquirrel · 04/10/2012 12:22

YANBU

I love ginger hair. As a child I would have happily sold my brother into slavery in exchange for his flame red hair. Still would actually

BigStickBIWI · 04/10/2012 12:22

YAdefinitelyNBU. I just don't get this thing that some people seem to have about ginger hair. As well as being hugely hurtful, it's just totally pointless. You are absolutely right to call them on it.

squoosh · 04/10/2012 12:22

I initally thought your post said 'to get stroppy with work colleagues being vile ginger children'. Thought maybe you worked with gifted children.

They were being outrageously rude if they were slagging off ginger children knowing that you have one yourself. I'd have slapped their chops. Metaphorically if HR were in sight, and literally if I thought I'd get away with it. Ok not really, but I would tell them to @%& the $£%% up or I'd %$%^ their %£$%'s'

EnglishGirlApproximately · 04/10/2012 12:27

I'll come and throw eggs. I have 3 gorgeous ginger nephews and a gorgeous ginger neice. Bloody idiots

NiniLegsInTheAir · 04/10/2012 12:27

Good for you to stand up for us gingers! One of the things that made me very cats-bum face when pregnant was 'jokes' from people about me possibly passing the 'affliction' on. Angry

dolcegusto123 · 04/10/2012 12:27

yanbu! I hate when people go on about ginger hair. Dont see what all the fuss is about, its only hair.
My friend has ginger hair and is stunning!

Original poster
ledkr · 04/10/2012 12:29

Thanks I feel more confident now. They have apologised but I know it was a token gesture.Bloody bastards. I told them they would never say that about someones skin colour. My baby is stunning too I feel so defensive.

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Noqontrol · 04/10/2012 12:29

They need to say sorry. Rude pigs.

Noqontrol · 04/10/2012 12:30

Just noticed they did say sorry. Well they need to say it and mean it then!

squoosh · 04/10/2012 12:30

How cute is this little munchkin?

Noqontrol · 04/10/2012 12:31

Got my eggs and flour ready.

sugarice · 04/10/2012 12:32

Hang on, they actually made disparaging remarks about red haired babies despite knowing you have one yourself Angry.

Get me a box of Asda's value eggs and I'll meet you there!

squoosh · 04/10/2012 12:33

Wrong link, that is most certainly NOT cute.

Here she is! workboywork.wordpress.com/2009/06/06/and-another-thing/

lljkk · 04/10/2012 12:33

The other day someone was enthusiastically stating how great Girls-Only education is because Boys are such turnip brains they hold girls back & lower the overall standards and results.

She KNOWS I have 3 sons. Hmm

DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 04/10/2012 12:33

Did they know your daughter is red haired?! Bloody bastards either way, but especially so if they knew.

I have a beautiful red haired nephew and niece and they're bloody gorgeous. I was actually hoping DS may inherit it from his DGF however he's turned out blonde. Oh well, there's always the next one!

AnastasiaSteele · 04/10/2012 12:34

YANBU. Gets right on my wick.

NiceCupOfTeaAndASitDown · 04/10/2012 12:35

What is wrong with some people that they think this is OK? I have had comments about DS 'maybe turning a bit ginger' - he's not but I just say "really? Do you think? That would be lovely!" how is it any different to racism? It's blatant ignorance most of the time.

If I were you I think I'd just be completely upfront. "I find your comments ignorant and offensive" - good luck dealing with these morons OP!

beingginger · 04/10/2012 12:35

tell them to fuck off. i hate that it's ok to bully ginger hair.
if it makes you feel better when i was at school it was water off a ducks bath to me, not bothered at all. as an adult it pisses me off no end!

Longtalljosie · 04/10/2012 12:38

I don't know what the hell the issue is. I'm pregnant with DC2 and the amount of times I've been asked "do you think this one will be ginger as well?"

On the plus side DD gets told how beautiful her hair is everywhere we go. It's dark red and ringleted. It is beautiful. I bet when she gets to 14 she'll be angling to dye it brown though Sad

AdoraBell · 04/10/2012 12:38

YANBU, or stroppy.

Well done for saying what you did.

Lilicat1013 · 04/10/2012 12:42

Red hair is beautiful, especially on children I would love to have red hair (instead I dye it red). I don't understand the weird attitudes to it. I said to a woman who had a baby with red hair how beautiful her little boy's hair was, so pulled a face and said they were hoping it would change colour as he got older Sad

I would love to join you throwing eggs at the idiots you work with.