Who is being more petty here? (Fairly light hearted)

[MrsHelsBels74]

Husband did night duties with DS2 last night as I've been unwell so he had a lie in this morning. My mum & I didn't have showers until he woke up so we didn't disturb him. He didn't wake up until 12:30 & then announced he was taking a shower.

Am I more petty to feel I should get the first shower as I've been waiting for hours & have the midwife coming to see my c-scar which is possibly infected (so wanting to be clean for her visit) or us he more petty for sulking being annoyed he has to wait?

Get in the shower with him? :)

You have first dibs on the shower due solely to the MW coming round.

Oooh it's like a Festival of Pettiness.

I would have demanded to be first due to the MW coming though.

Did he know that you waited?

How long does he take in the shower ten mins? get in straight after!

Official MN answer: YANBU (YANeverBU so soon after giving birth )

Real answer: It depends. Does he take a quick five minute shower (in which case, who cares who goes first?) or is he one of those really irritating people like DH who take hours?

Did he really need to sleep in until 12.30?

You're first in line for the shower, both because the midwife's coming but also because you are up first and have been waiting ages.

Does your shower make that much noise that it would disturb him? I often have baths/showers when people are sleeping, never thought about it disturbing anyone.

Both if you are BU. you should let your mum go in first because you are both arguing over it

My favourite bit of this is the fairly lighthearted bit.

Basically, if you agree with me it's lighthearted but I reserve the right to over-react like a mo fo if anyone disagrees.

Now that's my kind of AIBU

I always reserve the right to get a hump on

I would have let my DH go first as he doesn't take long and it would mean he was out of the bedroom by the time I finished in the shower so I could wander around in the buff, mess with my hair for ages etc etc while he looked after the baby (and toddler?) downstairs.

That said, I'd have let him lie in till 10ish then got in the shower myself anyway and hard luck if it woke him!

Yabu let him have the shower first, then you can have a long soak in the bath in peace with a bit of dettol to clean the c-section wound area

YANBU, a woman who has just had a baby, especially by c-section, especially especially if it's getting infected and especially, especially, especially if the midwife is coming to have a prod at it is NEVER unreasonable.

Get your shower fixed if it's that noisy.