To not go out today?

[Tamisara]

DD1 (2 years) has been out every day this week (OK once it was adult company, but she still enjoyed it).

I thought she had hayfever, but it is now apparent she has a cold - as do I. In fact, I feel very ill, and have the last couple of days.

The cold seems to have gone to my chest, which is tight, and I have a painful, yellow mucused (tmi) cough.

I've been hospitalised a lot, when I have coughs, as it worsens my asthma. I'm fine right now, but I don't want to go walking around, and then end up in A&E (which happens very quickly if it suddenly worsens).

I'm now being made to feel awful, by someone who keeps asking why I don't take her out, that I should just wander to the park & let her run around (the park was flooded a couple of days ago, and I've no reason to think it's dry, not after yesterday's rain).

DD1 also has a very, very runny nose, and is grizzly. At the moment she is happy watching her nursery rhyme DVD, and I really need to get some housework done.

But I just can't shake the feeling that I'm a lazy cow, sat inside, depriving my DD, especially as it was nicely pointed out to me.

Fuck it, have a duvet day!

Of course you aren't being unreasonable. Tell whoever it is to naff off. I hope you feel better soon.

Tell whoever is laying the guilt trip on you that they are free to take your dd out themselves, but that you have every intention of not doing so.

Thank you :)

Probably doesn't help that I haven't slept well the last two nights either, firstly with a really sore throat, then last night coughing... and DD1 (who doesn't usually sleep through) has slept both nights - Sod's Law!

A day at home never did anyone any harm. Hope you are both feeling better soon!

oh dear, I rarely take DS out without DH. Am I awful? I just let him play on his own indoors which he seems to really enjoy and occasionally make cakes.

Is this your husband/partner who's making snide comments, OP?

Don't you take him to the park or the shops, FeatureWall?

yeah I just don't think to when we are alone, we just chill out. As soon as DH is around he turns into a hyper looney and thats when we go out. I take him to a coffee group once a week (in the school holidays when I'm not working) to play and he goes to nursery one day a week too. I take him out if he asks to, but he seems to enjoy pottering around so I don't think to disturb him. He also does football on sunday morning (but DH comes to that too).

I don't think of the shops as "going out" so there is that too.

Looking at it he does go out a lot, and when I am working he goes to one of his DGMs who also take him out.

Don't worry, he's not cooped up 24-7!