to be fed up?

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I have posted on here before about this and took advice that was given. I'm struggling though.
Basically my dh works a lot of hours through choice. His main job is six nights a week, 5pm till 11.30pmish. He leaves the house at 10am on the days he works to earn a little extra money (and it is little).
He was off today and spent most of the day in bed, woke up to drop kids and I off at the swimming pool and then picked us up. He did help put the kids to bed and then went to bed himself.
He choses to work the hours he does as he works equally for himself and my dad.
I'm just fed up that he doesn't think working 80+ hours a week is a problem. I'm fed up he hardly sees the kids and never does anything with them. I'm fed up we haven't been out together in 3 years and I'm fed up he treats this house like a hotel. AIBU?

no

what does he say when you find the time to talk to him?

No, you're not at all. But have you talked to him about it? I know when I was in a similar situation with DH (he was working and in college) he really though I had it easy at home, until I went away for a few days and he realised that no, being a SAHP is NOT easy.

You do need to talk to him though. (Hug for you because it's not easy:))

I've managed to post twice, no idea how as I'm on my phone, sorry.
I've spoken to him before and it didn't go well. He really sounded offended and started shouting, passing me the phone and telling me to phone my dad and tell him I'm not allowing him(dh) out to work blah blah.
It did actually get better for a while but right back to when we were now.