to be able to select preferences easily when I change nickname?

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I have just namechanged and once again find I cant get the same page layout as I had before.
I have spent precious MN minutes sifting through mymumsnet but am no futher forward. I still have separate pages ( prefer to have one continuous page ) and no highlighting for my own and OP posts .

What the hell am I doing wrong? I cannot for the life of me fathom where these preferences can be.

namechanging doesn't change your preferences. Go to site stuff and ask there, this is nothing to do with AIBU.