MIL BIRTHDAY

[hifi]

mil has a landmark birthday,she was having a party but has changed her mind.i think this is becauses i havent offered to organise it .

instead of a gift dh suggested he take her away for 4/5 days.

i have just been discussing dates with her and shes really annoyed shes not going to be away with dh on the actual date of her birthday,it will be a few weeks earlier.

we have arranged to go on holiday with friends and will be away for her actual birthday as she said she wasnt having a party. we havent actually booked the flights yet but its the only week we can all go.

aibu in thinking its not the end of the world shes not away for her actual birthday?

Well I'm upset that DH hasn't arranged anything for my significant birthday that is coming up either on the day or a mini-break at some point around it despite me telling him that is what I wanted for the last 2 years.

I can understand why your MIL is a bit put out but I don't understand why it's down to you and your dh to do everything whilst his siblings don't bother yet you get the flack...

I think taking her away for 4/5 days is a lovely thing to do and she was the one who cancelled the party so it's tough really tbh.

Random - could it be a secret?

keels over laughing, er nope.

she does sound a bit sulky regarding cancelling her plans for a party,
its a nice thing you're doing taking her away for 4/5 days.

although if my mil (who i love very much) said that as long as it was without the kids i'd be tempted to be a bit sulky too!. It sounds very mean of her, they are after all her gc's!

Yanbu