to think that flapping my letterbox...

[BonkeyMollocks]

...instead of knocking my door is incredibly rude.

Especially if you are a salesman !!

Lol I thought it was a Carry On Film innuendo

That's how my cat tells me he wants in though. He can't reach the bell .

Why? It makes a louder noise than banging on the door so is harder to ignore less likely to be missed. Can't say it has ever bothered me!

@worra

I too thought this was code for something.

Our minds are clearly keeping one another company in the gutter, Worra.

Well it's not the greatest crime of the century and tbh, I hadn't realised that flapping letterboxes was that rude a thing to do. But it is irritating when there's a more effective way of announcing your presence.

This is something I'm currently being unreasonable about since for the second morning in succession, a bloke from the water company seemed surprised that a gentle knock on the glass in the front door was a less than efficient method of getting attention from anyone other than the dog. Unlike the bell which is clearly visible from where he was standing.

Another thing to add to my 'I really am a very laid back, tolerant person because these things have absolutely no effect on my mood' list.

It's a short list, but every new entry makes me feel a little more normal.

At risk of perpetuating the Carry On theme, why 'especially if you are a salesman !!'? Do you prefer them to use the tradesmen's entrance?

But its such a horrible noise!!

erm, get a doorbell?

@ tradesmen's entrance

Ask him to choose the back passage if he calls round on a Friday.

Our minds are clearly keeping one another company in the gutter, Worra

Yep!

OP, you do realise if you don't answer the front door, you may find the Salesman comes up your back passage.....

Snap Pandemoniaa

I'm in the gutter too

I don't mind having my letterbox flapped!

I have a doorbell.

I think i would quite enjoy a salesman to come in my back entrance.

I'd prefer someone to ring my bell instead of flapping my letterbox any day.

Pushing the right button can prove a problem at time though - I agree.

I live in a flat so people have to buzz and ask permission to enter. If they just role up to the floor door I don't open up.

lowers self for thread

*front door!

Shatners- It's a short list, but every new entry makes me feel a little more normal.

I live in flats too they shouldn't be able to get in the main front door!!

I have a knocker but they won't bang it

They tap the glass instead

YANBU. Doorbell even better than knocking as it's louder and I might actually hear it - but they ignore the doorbell half the time

Can they hear the doorbell ringing? (Or even see it easily?) If so, then YANBU, but if they can't then YABU because I would prefer to flap the letterbox rather than knock on the door - I always end up with sore knuckles knocking on the door.

Rattling the letterbox is family and friends only up here. You knock the door if you're the postman. The bell is for formal callers i.e. bloody salesmen.