Dh is a homeopathy nut. Little bloody sugar pills doled out left and right to the kids for this and that. I am a homeopathy 'non believer', but I see these pills as being so ineffective as to be completely harmless so I don't bother too much. However when our youngest had scarlet fever, I had to draw the line and out came the antibiotics.
That was ok, as I have equal say in how the kids are treated. However....
Dh has a recurrent problem. An abscess on his, er, posterior. He has had this before and left it untreated (sorry, he treated it with homeopathic remedies) and eventually I think he burst the bloody thing himself. Anyway, the whole process was painful for all involved, excrutiating for him actually, and lasted over two weeks.
It's back, this abscess. And this time it's making him ill. He's lying in bed, clearly in a lot of pain, but refusing to let me take him to the docs for some antibiotics and to discuss surgery. I've looked into the implications of these things and the complications are pretty nasty. One thing my research has turned up is that that they will keep coming back, they never go away unless surgically dealt with. He says that this is out of the question, he will treat it himself.
My point is this: It's his life and his body, BUT, We have a struggling business, 3 kids, I have a busy job and am self employed so don't get paid for time off. I think he is being selfish by allowing himself to suffer and putting himself out of action unnecessarily. He could go and get some drugs, get on a list for surgery, and be rid of the problem for good and we could all get on with it. As it stands, I have an out of action dh who is not attending to a business that is struggling to make ends meet, and 3 kids and a job to cope with all because he won't go to a fucking proper doctor.
Am I being unreasonable?