If you used another forum.........

[sitandnatter]

NOT MUMSNET NOTHING TO DO WITH MUMSNET BUT GENERALLY.... If you used another forum but then someone showed you a forum created to slag off the first form then found reams and reams of crap written about you.

Would you feel you were being unreasonable to think they were a seriously sad bunch of nutjobs? Why would posters hide on one forum to slag off posters from another. It seems incredibly sad.

I emphasise this is not MUMSNET, completely unrelated to this site.

Yanbu.

Happens off Mumsnet all the time you know facebook, twitter, pms, and even whole new forums!

But yes, very very very very sad and also a little bit tragic.

Oh yes. I'd think they were really pathetic.

However, I'd still want to make sure they knew that I knew. And exactly what I thought of them.

I've been lurking to be honest just watch it. So far I have been accused of being 7 or 8 different posters all wrong. These people are the biggest bunch of fools, I am not sure whether I should give them the satisfaction of answering or just be glad they are safely esconsed in one place.

OP, please give us a bit more background. (Don't feel bad, you know the other posters would do it!)

maybe you are the sad one to be lurking on it and getting knickers in a twist about it

shrugs

Do you mean the mn thread on netmums?

YANBU and this happened to me. It's probably the same two forums you are referring to! Those people are seriously jealous and have no lives seeing how much time and effort they put into slagging off other online usernames who they don't even know in RL! And they also obviously have no backbone otherwise they'd speak up instead of schlepping off to other forum to have a moan. Grrrr it still winds me up!

No nothing to do with Mums net nothing to do with MN, completely different forum not netmums either, never used that one, just happened from another forum I don't want to mention it really but the point in general, is it sad?

Yes, it's sad.
Just like people who enjoy slagging others off when they don't really know them, only the person in question can actually read what's being said.

yes. very.

She's probably referring to The Priory forum and Damsels...

Never heard of them banana, it seems there may be an epidemic of them

If the spin off site was set up solely to slag you off, then YANBU.

If the site was set up for friends who'd met on original site to escape the shite, and they didn't have a few rules in place to stop bitching pretty damn quick YANBU to be pissed off.

If you've been a twat on a previous site, then you have to expect to be slated everywhere!!! But YANBU to be pissed off.

There are spin off sites that are full of arseholes who dicuss things and people in great detail and then act almost as an army to attack their target at every opportunity. There are spin off sites who's members may be a bit bitchy or vent, but admin pulls the threads quickly and recites site rules. There's even spin off sites that are private and full of people from the original who have just grown out of the original but don't want to lose touch, and quite naturally may occassionally talk about certain users from the original for a while, then get bored and move on.

I prefer my spin off sites to be private, and even then am careful what I post, not everyone has the same views, or friends after all... course there's a couple of people I'm happy to meet for lunch and bitch of a bottle of pinot with, which can be rather fun.

YANBU though. But then its not always the case that they are either.

Justchat forum chatters do that on Patschat and vice versa. Just have your say and leave it at that is my motto.

Aldi a number of them keep posting that they want me to join the spin off but don't want to talk to me on the main site. Like what's that about? Nowt so queer as folk!

Thats the internet for you

As usualsuspect said. (Do I know you from another place, LOL ?)

Keep yourself private, OP. Don't use social networking sites, refuse to respond to personal messages of any sort if you don't know the people well - and then ignore anything that still happens. (Won't be much if you do the above.)

The internet can be dangerous. The 'level of attention' can affect lives.

So what's the story sitandnatter? Are you going to spill? Its all very cryptic with the posts from Aldi and Goingfor.

Been there and done that. I found if you delete links and have no way of getting to the offending forum that life improves immeasurably and with the added bonus of the offshooters being mightily pissed off that you're not reacting to their shite. If you can't see if you can't react. Read this and learn.

sitandnatter That IS weird. Talk to me everywhere or naff off!

Do yourself a favour though, don't lurk anymore. You're only causing yourself pain. Close the door, move on. Eyes wide open though, don't forget what's been said by whom.

Sheettt, if I actually knew what people had ever said about me, I'd probably be a quivering wreck. Best not to know, or find out and run for the hills.... hanging around to see your character assasinated is never a good thing! Whether justified or not.

Is it rollercoaster and magicmum?

Well I'm happiest if nobody says anything about me anyhow and anywhere. But then that's easy to arrange.

:)

This happens on EVERY forum at some point. Every single one.

I think it happens on all forums- certainly happened on the last mumsite I used to frequent.

I've also done a couple of searches on here, and it's clear that I've inspired (poss indirectly) various posts. I just take it as proof of my utter legendariness.