to think DH should get up?

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Background: I'm 25 weeks pregnant. I have a host of health conditions which complicate the pregnancy, including high blood pressure, for which I've been admitted to hospital twice so far. I came home from hospital yesterday on new medication, with strict instructions to rest and go back in if I feel at all off - they're not sure what way the new meds will affect me. Plus I'm recovering from a bad vomiting bug so I'm as weak as a kitten. And my back and pelvis aren't standing up well to pregnancy so I'm trying to go easy on them too, to preserve my ability to walk.

Current situation: I'm home from work (I need time to recover from the vomiting bug before going back to travelling 80 miles a day). The house is a tip and we've a 16 month old so a certain amount really HAS to be done - the floors need to be clean, the kitchen needs to NOT be an inch deep in crumbs and a foot deep in dirty dishes (I was only gone for 2 days!), and she needs clean clothes. So I've been working my butt off all day instead of resting.

It's 1:30 and DH is still in bed. Apparently he has a cold and can't get up.

Is it just me or is there something wrong with this picture?

Yes, there truly is something wrong with this picture..You should not kick his ass due to your BP, you need to call in re-inforcements to do so. I will happily do it for you if you like?

Your dh has a choice. He can either get his arse out of bed and do his share of the work (and preferably yours too) or he can do absolutely everything while you go back to hospital to recover properly.

That's the problem, if I so much as go upstairs and see him lying in bed I can feel my bp going up. I'm a bit stuck.

And there's no way I'm going back into hospital, they didn't want to let me out but I talked them into it. They had me on a 6-bed postnatal ward so I couldn't sleep and when I told them I was having violent vomiting and diarrhea they laughed and said 'oh, you really are having a bad day, aren't you?' and left me to it.

ColdToast, he doesn't do anything when I'm in hospital. That's why the place is such a mess. If I end up on complete bedrest before the end of this pregnancy the house may actually fall down around me.

It's not going to kill anyone to have a chaotic house for a week or so. Just you go to bed and do as the doctor's advised, and if you truly can't ignore the mess then just call Molly Maids and live off tesco value beans for the next month. Problem solved.

Can you call in reinforcements? parents, sister, best friend?

He sounds like an arse? Is he always so selfish? If you can't face him then sod him, concentrate on yourself and ask someone else to pitch in with the chores of you can.

Then when you're feeling stronger have a long, hard chat with the idiot.

sorry if you can, not of, obv