to have wanted a more considerate response

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Had a really bad nightmare last night which ended with dh leaving me and taking our ds, very vivid, really frightened me. I woke suddenly dh asked what was up so I told him about my dream. He responded with "if I left you I wouldn't take ds" not, I love you I won't leave you or why would I leave you, IF I leave you.
Apparently vivid dreams can be a side effect of my pnd medication, hope not it was horrid.
Am I being over sensitive? Is tiredness clouding my judgements? Or could he have been more sensitive.....

If I asked my DH anything during the night, I'd be lucky to get grunted at, even if he's fully awake. Maybe your DH just isn't good at conversation at night. I think lifechanger is right, he probably thought he was saying the right thing. If it's still worrying you, have a chat to him later when you're both awake and have :)

Maybe he just didn't get what was upsetting you most, he was trying to reassure you that you won't ever lose your son?

apparently i say fuck off if ever spoken to in the night. i am never awake so think yourself lucky lol.

What are his sensitivity levels like normally? I'd try not to worry too much, I had similar dream last week where DH left me for another woman, and DH's response was 'Was she hot?'

I thought that quite funny, but I'm luckily on the other side of the PND fog, I don't know how I would've reacted to that a year ago.

I too found that funny - like the old joke "We'd get divorced but neither of us would take the children".

No ones particularly sensitive while asleep. Have a wee cup of tea

If he had just been woken up,then cut him some slack for not having the perfect answer ready.

lol men dont think the same as women and would never think of saying oh there there you poor thing

dont be daft, it was a dream

He's a man, you woke him up I would be thankful for any response greater than ugh! Don't read too much into it men tend not to think like women expesially when half asleep,

yes, dreams can be frightening. Please dont take them seriously.

you are def BU to expect him to immediately wake up and console you with words. Some loving hugs maybe.

It has fuck all to do with him being a man. He has a penis, he's not deficient ffs.

You are being a bit unreasonable but I expect if you talk to him he'll give you a big hug when you need it - YANBU to have felt upset, it's natural and we've all had dreams where we woke up feeling shaken. It's just he was half asleep!