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whatsallthehullaballoo · 09/10/2011 21:20

I am moving area in a few weeks and my friend and I decided to go to a Spa together for a treatment. I had a voucher from some months ago for my birthday and she also wanted a treatment so we decided to go together and make a morning of it!

My friend very kindly offered to pay extra for me to have a more expensive treatment but I declined because I really only wanted a manicure (she booked the same) and so instead, she said she would buy me lunch after the Spa as a goodbye present.

I accepted and thought she was very kind for offering so off we went to a restaurant after the treatment. We did have starters and coffee as well as a main so I fully intended to put £10 towards my lunch as I didn't want to take the mickey but when it came to bill time (£50) she just said "lets split the bill" Sad

Now I know it is not the end of the world but I had just sold a couple of old toys on ebay and so had a little money in my purse to pay for the ingredients for my daughters birthday cake. I had to use this to pay my half and my friend even commented on clever I was to 'remember cash'.

Then I had no money left to get the cake bits and I came home really angry. I would never ever have gone out to lunch with that money if she hadn't offered to pay. I sound like a money grabbing cow but I had to stay in for 2 days running to wait for people to collect the items sold so I had money for the cake....should I have said something??

No of course not. I would have sounded so rude but oh what a waste of my money.

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whatsallthehullaballoo · 09/10/2011 21:49

Thanks chipping-in. I am fresh out of ebay stuff now but I will manage. Lots of beans on toast coming up!!

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Hungrydragon · 09/10/2011 21:57

Sometimes credit cards are a necessary evil Smile Envy wish I was clever enough to make a star wars cake.

whatsallthehullaballoo · 09/10/2011 22:02

Honey....the cake will be edible, probably not beautiful!! It is the one thing I really love to do for my kids birthdays - let them choose a theme/ cake and I make it for them.

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mistressploppy · 09/10/2011 22:50

Star wars cake - your DD sounds cool Grin

NorfolkBroad · 09/10/2011 23:34

I hate situations like this, so annoying for you! One of my brothers does this sometimes, actually he does it so often that I now no longer trust him! I truly don't know if he is ditsy or what!!

WilsonFrickett · 09/10/2011 23:43

Och OP, what a nasty situation. You are not BU, but I think it's one of those situations where you can't really do anything about it. Except look at your pretty nails?

Happy birthday to your DD too!

whathappenedtom · 09/10/2011 23:48

YANBU. how could she forget? Hmm However, £50 is a lot for lunch, also staters at lunchtime, really?

What are you goimg to do about the cake?

AnyCorpseFucker · 10/10/2011 00:31

I think what she did was really rude and thoughtless

incognitopenguingirl · 10/10/2011 00:38

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LesserOfTwoWeevils · 10/10/2011 01:22

It's a horrible feeling when you put aside money for something and through no fault of your own it gets spent on something else.
You sound lovely, and I really admire the way you're putting it aside and moving on.

whatsallthehullaballoo · 10/10/2011 06:51

Norfolkbroad - I think I will just say no in future unless I have the money ready! I am sorry you have been stung like this by your brother a few times. I think it is said to tempt you and then they may conveniently forget so they do not have to pay??

Thanks Lesser - I will forget. After all I am moving out of area and it will not need to happen again!

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