to think that partners baby's Mother is getten their baby Christened the weekend were getting Married?

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Well me and my partner are getting married in 5 weeks. His baby mum knows this and decided to do the christing the same weekend.

Her problem is the fact he didnt tell him and she had to find out from someone else, so when she found out about this she decided to do the christening the same weekend. She is doing it out of spite in my opion. another problem is me and her dont get along so we dont speak. The reason he never told him himself is because he dont want to speak to her unless it is to do with the baby.

I am on two minds on putting the wedding back! The poeple i have spoke to about it tell me I shouldnt put it back because that will be giving her what she want's. Ijust dont to be making thing's worst between them two and dont want him missing out on the baby's Christening!

Any advice on what i should do about it please?

He didnt want to tell her he was getting married because he only wants to talk to her about the baby?

It never even occured to him such a major event in his life might be relevant to his child?

WTF? Is it just me?

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Don't tell her the date of the wedding. Tbh nothing else she can come up with will be as important as the christening. She's played her trump card now.

To be honest, if you describe the child 'the baby', when it's in fact 2 and a half and presumably your future DSC, then you clearly don't spend much time with it.

So, either that's because he doesn't spend much time with it either, in which case his ex has my sympathy.

Or it's because you don't spend much time with him when he has his child, which is an issue you should be looking to resolve before becoming the child's stepmother.

How long have you had it booked for?
I don't see what other event she could come up with if she goes ahead with the Christening, unless you rebook the wedding on the childs birthday.
How is contact worked out, I would have assumed you partner would want his daughter at the wedding so you would arrange it for 'his' day.

Right there are reasons he dont want to talk to her unless its about the baby but that is their buisness. He didnt tell her because he knew his Mother would, because he asked her too. Once again she didnt have no dates or anything christening she wasnt even thinking about it untill his mum told her we were getting married.

How long were you friends with her, before you started seeing her ex?

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The whole thing sounds a bit daytime TV to be blunt.

Cancel the wedding, get access formally sorted out. Rebook the wedding for one of his access weekends. Surely his child was invited to the wedding? If so how did the mother not know about it?

He does see his child and i do but when he has the baby most of the time i'm at work so cant spend as much time with her as i do.

She never had it booked and reason i know that is because she text him saying "i am looking on gettng the baby christend the second week in November"

Everthing has been booked for the wedding for about 6 month's now. About his Child coming the wedding his ex dont want her there.

id go on jeremy kyle,he'd sort it within 15 minutes.

X-posted with loads of people there.
Was the child supposed to be at the wedding?

ballstoit me and her have never been friends

korma

If she didn't know about the wedding in the first place how could she not want the child to be there?

notso... he asked if his baby's mum when she found out and she said no

So you were planning to get married without his DS/DD there anyway?

YABU for using the rather distasteful phrase "his baby mum" to describe the mother of your fiancé's child. But it does sound rather as if she may have done this deliberately to take the shine off your wedding day, albeit that I imagine that she has probably done so because she is hurt at finding out second hand that the father of her child is marrying someone else and didn't have the courtesy to tell her himself.

Are they actually on the same day? As mentioned above, christenings tend to be on a Sunday whereas not many weddings are. If they don't actually clash, can't you just go to both?