DD1 and Lady Chatterlery's Lover

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DD1 is 14 and is a mature 14 yo.

All the DCs have always been able to read anything in the house.

She was going though my book shelf and picked up Lady Chatterlery's Lover the other day, after flicking through it and reading blurb etc. She asked could she read it. Of course she can.

DH found book in living room and asked me if I was re-reading it. I said it was DD1.

DH thinks it is not a appropriate book for her to read at all, and I should have said she couldn't read it.

I think it isn't like it is the Cement Garden or anything, and it isn't that bad at all in my eyes. And I would just tell her not to leave it in living room where younger DCs could pick it up and flick though and read (as they do with mine and DHs books if we leave them around)
He thinks we should say that actually she can't read it until she is older.

In my eyes the language isn't aything worse than she will hear at school, the sex isn't that explicit, And she knows herself - if she doesn't get on with it for whatever reason she will put it down and get back to it at a later date. Also we are close and she is the sort to tell me about what she is reading,what she thinks ec.

DH thinks it is highly unsuitable for her.

So AIBU to let her read it?

I read it when I was about 14. I feel like I turned out all right, of course. But I also think it gave me an appreciation of other people's interior lives (not that that is what I was scanning the pages for, naturally).

She's probably got worse language on her facebook account.

It's a fairly tame book when you compare it to today's standard of smut.

Yanbu.

No, YADNBU.

Has DH seen the "teen telly" available?

LCL is mild in compasrison.

Is DH's surname Whitehouse?

Tell him to get a grip. LC is beautifully written....and at least there's no glorification of rape like there is, in , Twilight for example.

The only problem is that it is a misogynistic rant, but imo that is not a reason for banning it, it's a reason for discussing it. Have never thought about keeping it in a special place where younger dcs can't pick it up.

I read it when I was younger than that, though don't think I fully understood everything to be honest! I wouldn't have a problem with it, surely 14 is old enough to know about sex, and your DH is deluding himself if he thinks anything in there will be a surprise to her.

"The only problem is that it is a misogynistic rant"

And Enid Blyton is desperately sexist. If she can understand the historical reasons for this she's learning extra stuff, too :)

I would let her read it.

organiccarrot, it's on a totally different level from Blyton: D.H.Lawrence really did have unusual issues around women and this was noted at the time, there were plenty of contemporaries making fun of him and not all because they were prudes, either

to me, he is a bit like Strindberg: the fact that he happened to touch on some ideas that were modern and progressive at the time has made people forget that he was basically a self-pitying whimp who cared a lot less for ideas than for his own personal wallowing

but I won't stop dd from reading Strindberg either

I'd let a 14yo read it. I read The Cement Garden then too actually.

Bloody hell - I was having sex at 14...nevermind reading about it! Of course YANBU.

your DH is probably having a wobble about DD growing up.

But no, YANBU. Let her read it - Then tell her to read son and lovers because it is a far better Lawrence than LCL.

Guessing you would tell her to not leave in living room to pacify DH and/or/because of other DCs are a lot younger?

Oh and my kid sister read The cement garden at 15 - let her read that to. Because he is great :)

YANBU - I also read it around that age. And at school aged about 16 we did some DH Lawrence stuff, and our teacher actually recommended we read it ourselves (don't think she was allowed to use it as a classroom text).

However, I think that YABU for letting her read any of Lawrence's turgid drivel - I given up on several of his books

I read it when i was 13/14 and I turned out ok (I think)

Like others have said the content isnt any worse than she will be hearing/seeing in her normal life as a teenager.

Think your DH needs to chill a bit :)

Haha! Finding Lady Chatterly and reading the rude bits is a classic rite of passage. I feel quite nostalgic now. She's probably read much worse, passed around illicitly between friends, if my schooldays are anything to go by.

Yes, it is misogynistic but I doubt she'll spot that at her age. Talk the misogynistic bits through with her if you're worried, but she'll probably just have read the passage where he puts bluebells round his willy.

YANBU to let her read it but talk to her about the misogyny in Lawrence's world view.

You could get her Sexual Politics which does a fabulous demolition job on it, but the trouble is that quotes from Henry Miller which is far worse, so you would have to just give her certain chapters and it would all get a bit complicated.

YANBU times 1000. It may have been shocking when it was written but it's a lovely, emotional piece which at 14 I would have found quite boring.

It's miles apart from Junk by Melvin Burgess and I would let a 14 year old read that.

And the Twilight series, well, there's no end of transparent references to premarital sex in that with the only nod to it's immorality being that such a viewpoint is old fashioned.

Let her read it! It's a great piece of literature which should increase her vocabulary at the least. And good on her if she manages to finish it because I found it a bit of a trial in my twenties!

'Oh and my kid sister read The cement garden at 15 - let her read that to. Because he is great' Should probably point out that was way back in late 70's when it first came out. (wow I feel old)

Again - let her read it

YANBU - I had an adult library card from 11 and read anything and everything, mum never censored my reading. Age 27 now and I still read as much as I did then, sometimes 20 books a week. Anything that encourages children and teenagers to read is good in my eyes

Ha, I read it at 14. I also loved Jilly Cooper from the age of 13/14 and that's just as bad.. I wouldn't worry, it's an appropriate age to start reading that sort of carry on I think!

YANBU. Really, compared with some of the things out there, LCL is positively tame.

Haha - YANBU.
Heck I'd let a 14yr old read trainspotting and Porno.

Tell your DH to be happy that she is not just reading some of the shit books out there for people her age

Just so long as you tell her that women do not, on the whole, wait for the man to come and then make little wriggling motions afterwards to "bring themselves off."

Still haven't got over that.

And yes, huge women ishoos.

Just so long as you tell her that women do not, on the whole, wait for the man to come and then make little wriggling motions afterwards to "bring themselves off

Ah, the things Feminism has brought us :o

LCL is just todays teenspeak but written decently.

I read it at about 12 or 13. I was very disappointed with how much of a let down it was! Everyone at school decided to read it - there were a lot of put out girls the next week!

Women in Love, that's really bonkers.