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AIBU?

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Original poster

to put my son in nursery when I'm not working?

28 replies

Changebagsandgladrags · 02/09/2011 16:41

Not going back to work for 2-3 months (maybe sooner if an opening comes up). However, the nursery I want has a place now.

I can just about afford it out of my savings.However, things will be tight.

I'm thinking about putting him in 3 days a week, 9.30-2.30 and using thattime to study in the library for my exam in October.

Mum thinks IABU and I should stay at home with him. If I have this study time I might get a good grade (aiming for distinction). If I study after bedtime Iwill still pass (well hopefully pass).

Thoughts? He is 1 and 3 months btw.

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WoofToYouTooLady · 02/09/2011 16:43

as a compromise could he go to your Mum for the 3 days instead?

I would say study whilst you have the opportunity and do whatever it needs to facilitate that

LoveBeingIgnoredByMardyBra · 02/09/2011 16:44

Do it, you will be benefit plus when you go to work you'll be happy that he is settled.

ViviPru · 02/09/2011 16:45

if you don't take the place now, is there a chance it might not be available when you return to work?

LindyHemming · 02/09/2011 16:47

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Groovee · 02/09/2011 16:48

I often send my children to the childminder when I'm not working and they love it there.

chutneypig · 02/09/2011 16:49

YANBU. It will give him and you a chance to settle into the routine before you start work and clear headed time for you to study. Especially if you get a place in the nursery you want, rather than possibly missing out on it.

I really struggle to concentrate in the evenings, it's not a straight swap between daytime studying and evening for me.

fivegomadindorset · 02/09/2011 16:49

Do it. Makes perfect sense.

TheThingUpstairs · 02/09/2011 16:52

YANBU, your son will be settled in nursery by the time you return to work and you have the chance to study more, it seems like a good idea to me.

OhdearNigel · 02/09/2011 16:52

I had a month's lead-in when Kitty started nursery before I went back to work. It was an absolute godsend; it meant that I had plenty of time to settle her in and gave me some much needed time off.

Don't feel guilty, you are allowed to have some time to yourself - once you're back at work it will be a rare commodity indeed !

TiaMariaandDietCoke · 02/09/2011 16:53

if you can afford it, then why not? - go for it

MrsBloomingTroll · 02/09/2011 16:54

Do it. My DD goes to nursery even though I was made redundant some time ago. I've managed to use the time to accomplish lots, and maintained my sanity. And DD is now a very sociable little girl.

startail · 02/09/2011 16:54

I'm a SAHM, but DD2 did one day a week at nursery from that age, (no near by family and DD1 at school) it kept us both sane!
I'd say if it gets you peace to study and a place at a nice nursery do it. DD settled instantly at that age.

FerretMum · 02/09/2011 16:54

I agree, it would be good for both of you... You will be able to study without other things on your mind, your studies will be of better quality and you will find it less stressful. He will benefit from the interaction with other children and I'm sure will enjoy nursery activities plus he will benefit from better quality time from you. Children much younger than than that spend time in childcare... Its a win-win situation.

rookiemater · 02/09/2011 16:55

Go for it as ODN you get the chance to settle him in without the stress of going back to work at exactly the same time, plus he will be in for short hours so get used to the routine without the associated tiredness of a full day.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 02/09/2011 16:58

Go for it! Is it the home environment your mother thinks he needs or is she just being judgy on the fact that you'll have a few days "off"?

Grumpla · 02/09/2011 17:01

Oh my goodness, YANBU!!!! I often juggle my work and do it in the evenings to save a few hours of precious nursery time for myself Grin

What's more, I think your studying could only be improved by reading in the bath occasionally as well as the library. And regular snoozes too. Bliss!

ticklebumpkin · 02/09/2011 17:03

I wouldn't do it if you think you're going to miss him a lot and find the separation hard.

Only you know if that's likely to be the case.

gizzy1973 · 02/09/2011 17:12

I would do it as would love to send my 19 month old a couple of times a week if i could afford it as he would love it and benefit from mixing with other children

MrsEricBana · 02/09/2011 17:15

Oh definitely do it - both my dcs did some nursery sessions when I was at home and they were fine and it was good for me too, and in your case you have a very legitimate reason study wise.

Whatmeworry · 02/09/2011 17:32

Do it. Good for him, good for you now and long term.

Unreasonablyfedup · 02/09/2011 18:10

I think you should do it. I did the same when I was studying and it makes a massive difference. And it will be easier to get him into the routine when you are not working. It takes at least a couple of weeks to do this anyway.

whackamole · 02/09/2011 18:15

Do it. Hopefully he'll get over all the coughs and colds in that time!

iliketeabutprefercoffeetoday · 02/09/2011 18:20

YA certainly NBU.

And fwiw you don't need to justify to anyone why you put your ds in nursery, if you feel that you want him to go there, that's fine. And it will probably be easier for you to go back to work knowing he's settled down somewhere than having him start the week before you go back to work.

enjoyingscience · 02/09/2011 18:21

Do it. You'll have less stress for both of you when you do return to work, as you won't have to change his routine and yours. Think of it as settling in time, which can only be a good thing.

Good luck with the exam!

KittyFane · 02/09/2011 18:26

Do it and don't feel guilty!