AIBU to expect some help!!

[farnywarny]

We had an impromptu party last night following a day at the races with a few friends and all their children.

AIBU to expect not to be running round like a headless chicken feeding all the children, fetching all the drinks, finding entertainment for all the children, tidying round after everyone

All while DP is in the garden being the chilled, funny and entertaining one of the 2 of us because all our friends see is me being stressed and busy

Grrrrr ? MEN!

Have you asked for help, or allocated tasks? Could the dc also help?

He does it cos you let him!

Why didn't you say ' Darling, need a lift here!!'

I agree with others, you need to delegate. e.g. 'Hey DH, so and so needs some more wine over here, can you pop in and get the bottle and check everyone has got what they want?' Then he can still be entertaining etc. AND help.

I did ask him for help - and got a slurred 'I will be there in a minute, chill out babe'

Everyone there are originally HIS friends, and they must think I am such a crank not being able to enjoy myself because I was so busy trying to make sure they were all ok

Then stop, get a glass of wine and sit down. His friends he can entertain them.

ahh the smell of burning martyr in the evening :)

Honestly I would have plonked myself down with a glass of wine and let people get on with it once it became clear that I was expected to be the waitress for the night.