To be totally fed up with DSs behaviour at weekends?

[NotQuiteSoDesperate]

I suffer from chronic illness, DH is disabled and can't work and DS1 has ASD. During the week, I struggle to go to work (am on a phased return after being off for 5 months) - basically forcing myself in each day. At weekends I need to re-charge and rest.

During the week, DS1 (21) goes out all day - sometimes to supported work, other times he just keeps busy.

So, why does he always choose the weekends to kick off? He has been out all day enjoying himself and has now decided (for the 100000th time) that he doesn't like his only friend again. They have been texting back and forth, phoning, come up and down the street banging on each other's doors and being a right pain. I just know that it will kick off worse tomorrow with him screaming and shouting at us. They are worse than a couple of teenage girls!

I just don't have the energy to cope with this any more....

Sorry for moaning, but I'm beyond the end of my tether. And no, there is no respite care for DS in this county - they are taking away all his supported work too! No family near either. My only consolation is DH (most of the time - although he has been in rant mode too this evening) and DS2 (who is a star!).

Rant over - phew!

Is there less structure to his weekends? That may be the problem. Are there any organisations near you who could help? There are volunteer organisations who assign a buddy. I'm trying to think of the name but it escapes me right now.

All of his structure are being taken away at the moment - so that might be a factor.

Oh my. That's going to be bloody hard, isn't it?

Why are they doing this to him?

No advice. It's a disgrace they are taking away his structure and support.

Our county council is cutting all of the supported work and training to disabled young adults who they don't think are "severe" enough! This has upset him enormously as he loves the people he works with and it has also taken away all of his structure. We have tried to fight this, but have got nowhere. The lovely people who work with him have been doing this job for 20 years and more - they are all being made redundant. Very sad times.