Aibu to want to return gift?

[Cutiecat]

My mum recently bought me a new changing bag as a gift for having DC3. I am not crazy about it and know she bought it from John Lewis. Do you think IABU to return it and get something else? And given that i have no receipt will John Lewis take it back? What should I say to my mother?

Sorry for so many questions but new baby brain has turned me into a fool!

Why don't you like it?

Hmmm. Bit too big. Would not carry it about so would live in boot of the car. I don't want to offend my mum (which is quite easy to do) but it is not my cup of tea. Has big bows printed all over it. I am not really a pattern type person. Would rather get something more useful.

If it were my own mother I would be able to tell her, as she herself has definite likes and dislikes and would prefer I had one I would use.
If that isn't possible with your mom, could you pretend it hurts your neck or chafes your shoulder? Or that you have already got one on order?

When my ex mil gave me a fringed plaid poncho from a trip to Scotland, I only wore it when I visited her. Could you use it when you visit your mother?

I could just use it in the car or when we see her but it seems a waste of money then. I could get a bag that i would use everyday and really love.

What about saying it hurts your shoulder? Either some excuse or the truth or not use it I'm afraid.

If you don't see her that often, you could exchange it but not mention it?

Oh I know! Buy one you like and pretend it just arrived form an overseas internet friend you know from a pregnancy internet group, and you can't return that one? Would she mind changing it for something else? That you love the one she gave you, but don't need two?

I would say I already had one and would she mind giving me the receipt so I could get something I needed as I love John Lewis?

I am not going to go to heaven am I?

Yes, that (yours) is a great idea. Was she there when you received it?

Good God why are people telling you to keep something you dislike?! Just say you saw one that was more practical for your needs and you wanted to change it! JL will exchange without a receipt. Get down as exchange it - you don't want to be stuck with an expensive bag you don't like!

If it is the 'yummy mummy' one I am with you on it not being my cup of tea!

As you already have dc could you say that on past experience you know it isn't the sort of bag that will work for you but that you have seen the perfect one you'd love to change it for?

Or say that a friend of yours has the identical one and you don't want to look like a copycat? And elaborate further on aforementioned friend if needs be - she knew she didn't think bag was suitable for changing bag as indeed she is finding it to be but it was a present from her nasty mil so she couldn't change it but thank goodness I have a great relationship with you dmum because I know that you're so lovely to want me to have a lovely changing bag but you would be horrified if I said thank you but ended up with something that was wrong, you'd want me to have the right bag from you and love it. Etc etc.

Do you know the bag you want? Any chance you could go with your mum to change it and make her a part of it?

It is a yummy mummy one. I am going to see if john lewis will take it back. No point in keeping it if I dont like it. Will tell my mum that i was given another by an american friend that could not be returned as from the States. Which is true. My mum is becoming very tricky in her old age, very easily offended. Such hard work.