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does using sex toys equal cheating

31 replies

wanttoknow · 14/07/2011 00:00

to be honest i prefer to use sex toys than have sex with my DP, he says that he feels like i am having an afair with my rabbit

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NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 14/07/2011 00:01

Tell your dp "men are OK but you can't beat the real thing"

TiggyD · 14/07/2011 00:02

Well, I've always found your DP quite good in bed.

Wink
AuntiePickleBottom · 14/07/2011 00:03

is this thread for real

Tchootnika · 14/07/2011 00:04

You're only cheating yourself, wanttoknow Sad Sad Sad
No, really, he must get some kind of jealousy thrill, surely? Wink

SouthStar · 14/07/2011 00:04

I think you need to have a word with your dp then as he clearly isnt doing it right. Altho if you have told him you prefer toys to him then I can see why he just wouldnt want to bother.

moonferret · 14/07/2011 00:04

Is this site for real?

weedle · 14/07/2011 00:04

It depends, do you use them with someone else? Because I'm pretty sure that is Wink

midlandsmumof4 · 14/07/2011 00:42

He's probably very turned at at the thought of you and the RABBIT..[hgrin]

squeakytoy · 14/07/2011 07:55

Grin I love threads like this. If a poster was saying her husband preferred a blow up doll to her, or a "rubber fanny" (dont ask.... it was on the relationships board the other day ).. everyone would be telling her to leave the selfish fucker Grin

MumblingRagDoll · 14/07/2011 07:59

And yet the Rabbit never says a peep when you're intimate with your DP does he?

No. Of course not. Doesn't that tell you who is being unreasonable here?

Grin
VelveteenRabbit · 14/07/2011 10:11

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robingood19 · 14/07/2011 10:14

A l;ady I know said a real rabbit was more fun, But I darent ask what she was doing with

CrapolaDeVille · 14/07/2011 10:15

I think I would be ,mortified if my husband preferred sex on his own.

ClaireDeLoon · 14/07/2011 10:16

:o at mumblingragdoll

robingood19 · 14/07/2011 10:19

prisoners use all sorts of things for sex

giraffesCantZumba · 14/07/2011 10:20

Yes it is cheating.

It is also cheating if you wipe your fanny with toilet roll as you may accidently orgasm.

For the same reason merry go rounds should only be for single people. Every time I go to the carnival and see wedding ringed women on them I shout home wrecker!

GrownUpNow · 14/07/2011 10:20

Get your DP to use your rabbit on you, using sex aides together can be loads of fun.

A bullet and your DP is practically an organic rabbit, innit. Wink

Find the fun again together, a rabbit is a shite replacement for a warm, loving, adventureous sex life. Okay the orgasms might be better sometimes, but that's not all sex is about in my opinion.

TheAtomicBroomstick · 14/07/2011 10:21

I was thinking exactly what VelveteenRabbit said. I know everyone will be saying, well, tell him to grow up for being jealous. But, as SqueakyToy said, if a man preferred to masturbate to pornography to his wife, it would be seen as a problem with him. It's indicative of an issue in the relationship, since (maybe it's just me) nothing compares to the intimacy of making love with my wonderful partner (not just on a physical level). If this part is missing, then I think it's a clearly issue. Or perhaps it's not emotional and he's just not satisfying you physically, but either way there must be an issue.

My DP has a vibe, but we sometimes use it during sex with eachother. Yes, she probably uses it on herself sometimes, but it doesn't get used as a replacement.

LDNmummy · 14/07/2011 10:29

If you prefer your Rabbit the you are not having good sex with your DP. Maybe try using it together to spice things up?

I am not sure if this is a real thread but have met women in RL with this problem before so am inclined to think it is a real query.

Tchootnika · 14/07/2011 11:25

squeakytoy
I rather thought that was the point of the thread...?

LRDTheFeministNutcase · 14/07/2011 11:31

tiggy! PMSL

If my DH told me he 'preferred' a sex to to me I'd be bloody livid. Not everything that's wrong in a relationship can be called 'cheating' ... so, no, this isn't 'cheating' but it is rude to your DH and, frankly, a problem for both of you.

PinkBloss · 21/11/2012 19:36

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noisytoys · 21/11/2012 19:44

Rabbits should be an addition to your sex life not a replacement for. I have loads of rabbits but DH uses them with me too

noisytoys · 21/11/2012 19:46

I read the blog. Good, but there is a difference between there, their and they're. There isn't the only option Wink

ILoveSparklers · 21/11/2012 19:47

Preferring it to sex all the time might cause problems but wouldn't say it was cheating :)