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Nasty comments on FB? What would you do???

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MugglesandLuna · 11/07/2011 10:33

A friend who is a parent of a girl in DS1's class has called me to say that her DD has shown a picture on FB of DS where two other girls have made nasty comments, calling him a freak, nerd and a wierdo. I havent seen the photo but I believe this woman.

I dont know what to do about it. If I make a fuss about it DS will find out. He doesnt know as he doesnt have FB. I know he would be upset about this, he is 10 and very sensitive (he has AS traits), but if I say nothing the girls will go unchecked.

The picture has been taken at school, DS is in it but he doesnt know the photograph is been taken. Should I involve the school.

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BupcakesandCunting · 11/07/2011 10:36

Yes. It is cyber-bullying and they should take it seriously.

:( for you. Little bastards.

Expelliarmus · 11/07/2011 10:37

Ask your friend to take a screen shot, print it out then take it into school and show his head of year.

Bloody hate FB

Rindercella · 11/07/2011 10:39

Yes, definitely involve the school. How old are the children concerned? I am guessing if they have FB then at least 13, so 13 year old kids are cyber bullying a 10 year old boy? Nice. (massive assumption about their age, I admit).

These children need to be pulled up over their behaviour. Really, really nasty thing to do.

TheSecondComing · 11/07/2011 10:39

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Expelliarmus · 11/07/2011 10:43

Rinders - don't be so sure they are 13, I know plenty of 10 yo's on FB. Actually, I know lots of 8 and 9 yo's on too.

Nellythecat · 11/07/2011 10:46

If it was taken at school the school would tell the children concerned to take it off. I know of one school which sent out a newsletter telling parents that children should not be using photos from the school website on their pages, and the head also went so far as to ask the parents to think very carefully about whether it was appropriate for primary aged children to use Facebook in the first place.

I would also find out who the parents of these children are and explain, politely, to them what their kids have done. They may have no idea and be horrified. My brother once phoned our uncle to tell him about some inappropriate stuff on our 11 year old cousin's Facebook wall and he'd had no idea and made her take it straight off.

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MugglesandLuna · 11/07/2011 10:48

The girls are in his class so they are 9/10.

He only has a couple of friends but he seems happy that way. He is very sensitive though and if he knew that this is what they are saying about him he would be crushed which is what makes it so sad.

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CurrySpice · 11/07/2011 10:50

What Expelliarmus said. Take a screen shot into his teacher. It needs nipping in the bud.

This is why I won't let DD1 (11) go on FB although she's in the minority in her class

nevermindthegap · 11/07/2011 10:52

Get a printout and show it to the school head.

How did this children get hold of a picture taken at school or are they allowed to use cameras and phone cameras at school? At my dc's school pictures taken at school cant even be printed out by parents as they are displayed in the form of a video rather than slide. If the pictures were taken by a parent during assembly etc then the school needs to have a word with parents.

If you are on FB report them. I feel for you.

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MugglesandLuna · 11/07/2011 10:56

I wondered that Nevermind The picture is of one of the girls with DS in the background. They are in the 'quiet area' of the playground which I can recognise so they are definately at school.

We had a letter home a few weeks ago as some of the pupils had been bringing in phones and Ipods, so I can only imagine that its been taken on one of those??

I have text my friend and asked her to take a screen shot then I am going to speak with the Head tomorrow as I have a meeting about DS2 with him anyway. I am going to ask if they think there is anyway that DS doesnt have to find out, but I know its unlikely.

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Expelliarmus · 11/07/2011 10:58

At primary level, and as your ds doesn't know, I'm sure they'll make an effort to keep him out of it.
Good luck tomorrow.

Ihavewelliesbuttheyrenotgreen · 11/07/2011 11:19

I think that you need to mention it to the school as the picture was taken at school and also because these girls' behaviour on FB may be a reflection of their behaviour in other situations. I reckon that the girls may be suitably embaressed/shocked to discover the school is aware of what they get up to on FB and there will be no need for your ds to know.

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