To feel really disappointed with DH

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DH had the afternoon off work, so I suggested that he pick DD up early from the CM and spend some time with her. He didn't go. He said he was going to but then he "started watching a film". I feel he'd rather watch tv than spend a bit extra time with DD and felt upset, possibly overly so, if I'd had the afternoon off I'd have been over there like a shot!
And he had the cheek to ask me what was for tea. He was the one with the afternoon off FGS.

He had the time off for rest and relaxation. His way of relaxing is obviously not your way. No need to stress about it.

Everyone needs some me time, unless of course he's like this all the time????

I agree that everyone needs switch off time, it doesn't mean he thinks any less of your DD.

Or is it that he's not doing the parenting thing as you'd want him to?

Agree with Zandy.

Gosh, I really relish the odd hour off here and there without the children. Don't make him feel bad about this, it's really not a big deal.

I hear y'all, I've gone back to work after maternity leave recently, that's probably why it felt like an odd thing for him to do, as I'm used to having her around all the time (but he's not).
Love, he is like that quite often, &agent I think you've hit the nail on the head.

YABU - if I had the afternoon of work I would take the opportunity to relax without anyone needing me.

He doesn't answer to you - you're not the boss.

off work

I really relish time without the kids too.

YANBU about the dinner, though, that was out of order.

Entitled to some R&R time so YABU about that.
But asking what was for dinner was totally out of order. What did you reply?

I replied "cottage pie"!

If I'd asked him why he wasn't doing tea, he'd either
a) ask me whether I'll be doing the next insert traditional-man's-job-of-choice then
b) say it'll be baked beans on toast
c) get a takeaway

Let him get a takeway then. My husband cant cook, he genuinely cant... complex boiler wirings are no problem... more than two ingredients and a pan totally baffle him... so when it is his turn, he orders in... suits me

How old is your DD?

But i think they're too expensive when there's already food in the house. Gawd I feel like a right control freak, need to lighten up a lot bit

8 months

Every now and again (maybe twice a year?) I will take a day off when the children have after school childcare and I will do things I need/want to do - usually a mix of house stuff and relaxing with a film/book/whatever. I don't feel guilty about the children. I wouldn't expect my DH to cook when he got in from work (incidentally, he sometimes takes a day to himself as well) although neither would I have spent the afternoon cooking.

Well at 8 months it's not a big deal really...different if she was a toddler and able to interact a lot more.

My kids are at the childminder for a day every other week whilst i'm not at work! Infact I have next Wednesday alllll to myself, am thinking of going the cinema with a work colleague!

I love having the day to myself and I would definitely not begrudge DH doing the same if he was able.