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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to feel terrible

18 replies

ikoto · 09/07/2011 17:35

My brothers got back from being at uni and I was talking to him about it. He went on to say that I was the biggest thing that he missed from home and that he thinks about me all the time. He then showed me a picture display that he'd made of pictures of me and him.
I feel really bad though because although I do love him, I don't think about him all the time. Maybe I'm being silly about it but I feel really terrible about it, AIBU.

OP posts:

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 09/07/2011 17:43

It's because absence makes the heart grow fonder. You're still around in the old familiar places and he's moved away... he's missing home, family and all the things that he knows.

AgentZigzag · 09/07/2011 19:26

You are being silly, y'big dafty

How lovely he thinks so much of you.

It doesn't matter you don't think the same amount of times about him.

Is he older or younger than you?

LineRunner · 09/07/2011 19:27

He's been away, you haven't. Of course he misses you.

I missed my younger brother terribly went I went to uni. I don't think he was that bothered!

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ikoto · 09/07/2011 19:35

He is younger

OP posts:

joric · 09/07/2011 20:59

He's homesick and you're not because you are at home. Poor DB - just let him know you love him.

TidyDancer · 09/07/2011 21:54

Oh he sounds so sweet! LyingWitch is right, you don't feel the same loss because you still have the familiarity of home. When he misses you, he doesn't have the comforts of being around other people he is close to.

Just spend some time with him and let him know you love him. It will mean so much to him and will make you feel better too!

superjobeespecs · 09/07/2011 22:04

aw he sounds so sweet [hsmile] lucky you im sure my wee brother has forgotten i exist [hhmm] [hgrin]

shudaville · 09/07/2011 22:33

YABU, he's being a mushy idiot. Peoples lives take them away from where they grow up and you've accepted that he's moved away to further and better himself and you've accepted that so are happy to see him progress whilst he seems to want to live in the past and his picture thing shows that.

leares · 09/07/2011 22:51

Excuse me whilst I

He's playing you like a fiddle, making his sister think he misses her whilst meanwhile patying the nights away in various clubs in the city/town that he goes to uni in.

inappa · 09/07/2011 23:16

YANBU tell him to grow a pair, your lives are diverging as is natural. He is follwing his path and you are following yours, why he has mentioned this I don't know other than to make you feel guilty.

AgentZigzag · 09/07/2011 23:20

A cynical, but probably more realistic view there leares

inappa · 09/07/2011 23:25

He's playing the OP

joric · 10/07/2011 09:10

Leares - how do you know he's out clubbing and having a great time? Are you there with him??

GothAnneGeddes · 10/07/2011 09:49

Some nasty cynical people on here. Why would he be playing you? What purpose would that serve? And yes, some people can go out and have fun and still miss people. Oh, and they can tell someone they love them without having some sinister reason behind it.

oila · 10/07/2011 09:56

YABU, I bet he doesn't he's probably trying to get you to give him some money to tide him over through the summer holidays before he gets his next loan/grant.

AxlRose · 10/07/2011 09:56

Oh bless him!

I really can't imagine anyone going to the effort of making a photograph display just to 'play' someone. I'd say he's obviously missed you and maybe realised how important his family are to him. Sweet!

aeder · 10/07/2011 10:04

There is some very strange opinions here, I think he clearly loves the OP and misses her. I don't see how some people have extrapolated that he's trying to manipulate the OP into giving him money

herecomesthsun · 10/07/2011 11:22

I think it is great he cares so much about you. If you have a family already (as being a mumsnetter you may have) and being older and having got on more with your life it is very reasonable that you do not feel quite the same way. If he is younger and you have been nurturing it might be a slightly lopsided relationship at the moment. That is okay and it will be a relationship that matures as you both develop. Some sibs don't get on at all and it is fantastic that you clearly love each other. I wouldn't bother wasting your time feeling quilty though!

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