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Original poster

to think my DP should get over his disgust at changing shitty nappies?

209 replies

Melly20MummyToPoppy · 07/07/2011 23:03

seriously, our baby girl is 3 weeks old tomorrow and DP has changed ONE nappy. And that was only because she was wearing huggies and she weed and it leaked and i was at the post office. I keep asking/telling him to change her but he "just can't do it" as he "doesn't do shit" and it makes him feel sick. So AIBU to think he should just man up, grow a pair and get stuck in?

OP posts:
PatriciaHolm · 07/07/2011 23:05

Yep. His child, his responsibility as well as yours!

AlsoAvailableSober · 07/07/2011 23:06

Go out. Leave him in sole charge. For a LOOOONG time. Then tell him to grow up and tell hum he can't cherry pick aspects of parenting. Twat.

Hufflepuzzpig · 07/07/2011 23:06

WTF did he think would happen when he had a baby?

worraliberty · 07/07/2011 23:06

That really pisses me off

It's like saying he's too good for shit but you're not Hmm

Mind you, if he doesn't start now, wait til she's on solids...that'll be a shocker Grin

Annpan88 · 07/07/2011 23:06

YANBU - shitty nappies arnt anyones favourite thing, its just something he should do

A1980 · 07/07/2011 23:07

Just wait until she gets older and throws up down him. It will happen!

He'll get used to it.

edwinbear · 07/07/2011 23:07

Buy him some vicks vapour rub to go under his nose and tell him to get on with it.

Original poster
Melly20MummyToPoppy · 07/07/2011 23:08

I probably should also mention that the nappy he did do was only wet.

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AlsoAvailableSober · 07/07/2011 23:09

Shove a peg on his nose. That should sort it....

hester · 07/07/2011 23:09

Do not let him get away with this! It is the start of a very slippery slope of him cherry-picking the parental responsibilities that suit him, and refusing to take on the others.

I remember that my dd's father, though a very devoted dad, had a real struggle coping with shitty nappies. I can't believe men's olfactory glands are any more sensitive than ours, but maybe they just don't expect to get on with it as we do.

But, FGS, I could sit here and say I Don't Do sleep deprivation, I Don't Do coping with toddler tantrums, I Don't Do the school run. Except that I do, because I'm a parent. And so is he.

smartyparts · 07/07/2011 23:11

He needs to grow up. What a prat.

Primafacie · 07/07/2011 23:11

YANBU. Nothing else to say really! What, does he think you have a special gene that makes you enjoy dealing with shit?

Tryharder · 07/07/2011 23:14

How old is he? 12

CocoPopsAddict · 07/07/2011 23:15

YANBU!

Rubitue · 07/07/2011 23:15

Have just read this to my DH, his response; "what a penis".

Seriously, newborn poo smells like toffee yoghurt, or as a friend described it "the bakery section in M&S Food". As other posters say, he needs to desensitise himself now while because it only gets worse.

What's he planning to do - not look after her alone until she's not only toilet trained but can wipe herself up afterwards?

EightiesChick · 07/07/2011 23:16

Yes, don't let him get the idea this early that you will do all the shitty bits - literally and metaphorically. The Vicks under the nose is a good suggestion, as don't see how he can argue then.

lucky24 · 07/07/2011 23:17

My DH doesn't do dirty nappies (DS is 2.5) he has tried but he literally throws up when he does. He put his t-shit over his nose and throws up in his t-shirt, so at least it doesn't go on DS.

If I want a lie in and DS has a dirty nappy DH will bring DS up to me for me to change him then I try to go back to sleep. He does try vicks but it doesn't help him.

worraliberty · 07/07/2011 23:18

DH's friend was very much like that. He used to go pale at the sight of a shitty nappy.

One summer we were in the garden and our (then) toddler ran by with a dirty nappy and DH's friend made a massive song and dance..holding his nose and wafting his hands around. So DH too DS inside and changed him.

Then he childishly grabbed a clean nappy and filled it with chocolate Ready Brek...came back out and said "You know, I think you're right. His nappy was shitty"

Then he ran over to his mate, opened the nappy and dumped it on his head! Blush

I think he was about to die til he realised what it was Grin

shakey1500 · 07/07/2011 23:24

Dh used to retch changing ds. Still did it though Grin

petisa · 07/07/2011 23:32

Yanbu, tell him to get on with it! Go for a coffee with a friend or a walk, he'll have to change one at some point. My dp told me he wouldn't be able to cope with a pooey nappy before dd1 was born Hmm and he did a lot of retching and waving his hands when changing pooey nappies, but he got over it and doesn't blink an eyelid now he's a seasoned dad of 2.

Again, tell him to get on with it. No-nonsense approach - hand him the pooey baby and go for a cuppa.

Tyr · 07/07/2011 23:33

I think he needs to get over it. I always changed my daughter; it's part of the bonding process. I was happy to do it and know I was making her more comfortable.

gallicgirl · 07/07/2011 23:36

New born poop barely smells!

Your DP needs to grow up and get on with it. You don't have a choice about which bits of parenting you do. Maybe ask which other bits he doesn't fancy so he can get used to the idea of being wrong.

lazylula · 07/07/2011 23:40

My dh has changed 2 nappies for dd in 9 weeks, they were both wet ones. As revenge, I have been 'busy' on a couple of occasions when ds2 (3) has pooed his bedtime nappy, which is the only time he wears a nappy, leaving dh to do it. I know who's pooey nappy I would rather change, especially on a day when ds2 has eaten a little too much fruit!

swallowedAfly · 07/07/2011 23:40

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Tyr · 07/07/2011 23:48

I remember formula produced the worst results..........

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