to think my DP should get over his disgust at changing shitty nappies?

[Melly20MummyToPoppy]

seriously, our baby girl is 3 weeks old tomorrow and DP has changed ONE nappy. And that was only because she was wearing huggies and she weed and it leaked and i was at the post office. I keep asking/telling him to change her but he "just can't do it" as he "doesn't do shit" and it makes him feel sick. So AIBU to think he should just man up, grow a pair and get stuck in?

at all these man who can't cope with a tiny bit of baby poo (which smells like freshly-baked bread) and which can be easily eradicated and concealed by using the nappy before wipes are even applied.

I assume that these same men don't "notice" that a huge skid is on the lavatory-bowl, the dirty feckers.

dreamingbohemian Fri 08-Jul-11 14:39:23

Dorje Let me get this straight, your DH is too klutzy to change a nappy but is great at carrying her and swinging and playing?

Yes that's right! he's too klutzy for changing her nappy, but can swing her up on his shoulders and carry her for hours.

I know I can't carry my DD for hours, (post CS) so I did the nappies.
Equality does not mean everyone is the same - we are equal in parenting, but different in how we do it. I breastfed as well - he couldn't do that - but he did the night feeds with EBM and Formula.
Simples, see?

Bruffin, did your husband never take care of the children solo before they were potty trained, then? How many years did you go without ever leaving them in his care?

DD is currently managing to only do two poos per day. One in the morning, one in the evening. Her DF, my DH, is there for both and changes both (because I am with her all day and need a break). This evenings poo was disgusting. He showed me (because that is what parents do!) and I am very glad it was him doing it.

Before DD, I gagged at any kind of bodily stuff (vomit, poo) but I have to change nappies because I am a parent. I vomited the whole way through the pregnancy and didn't notice any opting out there.

I do agree that partners trade off. I cook, DH clears up. But WE AGREED TO THAT. I didn't say, "I can't clear up because I'm ...insert excuse... so you do it". It would be insulting and DH would have laughed in my face.

BTW I don't know about your DHs but some of the smells/noises/smears in the bathroom beggar belief. If he said that he couldn't clean up infant poo after producing some of those noises/sounds I would be a little

"Bruffin, did your husband never take care of the children solo before they were potty trained, then? How many years did you go without ever leaving them in his care?"

To be honest it was a complete non issue in our house. I am sure he did look after them by himself and probably changed a dirty nappy if he really needed to just as I managed to clean up sick if he wasn't around. He always worked very long hours so it was probably always down to me anyway.
As I said dcs are teenagers now and he is a brilliant Dad to them and they adore him.

My DH used to make a big song and dance of changing DD's nappies when she was little. I told him to stop right now, before she got a complex about 'poos' being a bad thing. He shut up then, but still avoided poos when he could.

I was just curious, because obviously there's no guarantee of exactly when a small child is likely to poo, and otherwise it would mean never being able to leave the house for more than, say, two hours. In several years. Long hours or not, presumably you'd have a coffee with a friend on the weekend occasionally when your children were young?

Well we love changing shitty nappies dont we? What a feeble bloke,i have a weak stomach and heave at the food recycling bin but my own kids pooh means nothing to me. Being a parent is about sometimes doing thimgs you dont enjoy like getting up in the night,no lie ins etc,does he put himself out in other ways or just he just enjoy the nice bits of parenting?

iscream Thank you for the laugh this morning. That Youtube video is hilarious!!! I feel abit bad for laughing but ha ha ha