Early night = long lie?

[CadleCrap]

A not really hypothetical question based on these facts.

Both tired. Both work full time. Normally take it in turns to have a long lie at weekends.
DC in bed by 8pm.

DH has long lie on Saturday. I go to bed early (8.30pmish) Saturday night.Dh comes to bed several hours later.

On Sunday morning, when DCs wake up, I say "Your turn to get up". He says "but you had an early night".

So, does an early night equal a lie in?

Who is BU?

He is BU.

The lay in is the morning side of the deal not teh night time side of the deal.

He is. He chose to stay up knowing it was his turn this morning.

Was DH prevented from coming to bed by shifts on the dishes/washing /nappy bin? Could that make a difference?

Unless you count the x-box as preventing him from coming to bed - no

cadlecap I knew that really, didn't I - I think you can tell what my answer is...

I did have the long lie this morning, but I was wandering how he reached the conclusion of a lie in equaling an early night.

Well if he also had the chance to go to bed early then that´s his look out, isn´t it?

Although if I had had an early night I felt like getting up I wouldn´t have had a lie in just for the sake of it.

Also, I would assume that a lie in has a limit-otherwise he could stay up until stupid o´clock & not surface until lunch!

He is bu. I take it he has the option of an early night aswell as you? If so then its his problem!

He is bu. I take it he has the option of an early night aswell as you? If so then its his problem!

If you went to bed at 8.30 I'd have thought you'd be stiff if you laid in bed half the morning as well. That seems an awful lot of sleep or time spent lying down.
I see his point, if you go to bed early why would you want/ need extra time in bed in the morning.
If you have an agreement you take it in turns to lie in though then that should be the agreement regardless of what time you choose to go to bed.
Just seems a bit weird to me, maybe I'm just getting old as I now get stiff and achy if in bed for too long and don't see the attraction of 12+ hours in bed.

Well I go to bed late and DH gets up early but that is because DS2 still needs a feed around 11 / 12 ish and I have work to do (which I am stopped from doing in the day by looking after DC's) so in that case it is only fair I get the lie in.

In your case if there was nothing to stop him going to bed late then doesnt make a difference!

I think it's more about the luxury of not having to get up rather than the actual number of hours spent in bed. I rarely stay in bed once the children are up in the morning, in fact, I get up earlier to have an hour or so on my own with coffee and the papers. But I do relish the not having to be 'on duty'.

I have actually had the same thing recently. He is BU!

It's your lie in on Sunday, there's a law about it being mum's lie in on Sundays I think. but YABU for going to bed at 8.30pm on Saturday nights. Join lovefilm.

It's about childcare really though. While your DH was staying up late, it was still his "me" time. Whereas whoever does the early morning shift is presumably feeding, entertaining etc. It's not an equal exchange.

He is BU! evenings are you time, getting up with the kids is not me time! He chose to come to bed early knowing it was your lie in the next day.

He is BU.

BUT, tbh if you knew you had a lie in I think if I was him I'd be a little put out you chose bed over spending time with me in the evening iyswim?