to think DH is so stupid

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he spends hardly any time with the dc -he says 'theyre babies' - like thats a good reason to get away with it

Are they babies? how old are they?

I don't understand
Do you think he should spend more time with them? If he is spending as little time as he can with them and you think he's stupid because of that then I agree

yeah as little as possible, two under two! hes an absolute dickhead

Well, my two girls are babies and I spend loads of time with them for that reason... they won't be babies forever so why miss out?

This does beg the question of why you had a second baby with someone who spent little time with the first?

karmabeliever... she never specified that they were from different pregnancies.

Sorry, didn't think they might be twins

I think he will regret it later on. But, some people just aren't 'baby' people and prefer older children they can actually play with.

Although you sound really angry about it, is this the only thing that is bothering you about him?

YUBU if he just doesn't know what to do with a baby aside from the nappy changing/ bottle feeding (if you bottle feed). Some people seriously don't know what to do with them except watch them lie there.

If he is just not interested then YANBU

Yep, he sounds like a dickhead. Who actively avoids spending time with their children - whatever age they are? OP do you want to talk?

That's really sad :( sounds like there's more to it...