I am starting a new job on 1 September - commuting to London, after being part-time and a studnet for six years. Before then I have to finish writing up my thesis (30000 words to go). It is going to be a rush. I've planned the next couple of months qute carefully to try to get this done, eg cancelling trips, getting the children's holidays sorted without me going etc.
My mother is *0 at the end of the holiday. We talked earlier on the summer and I didnt think she was going to celebrate in a big way. Now my siblings have got together and planned a weekend get-together in north France for the august bank holiday which is the weekend before my work starts (5/6 hour drive).
It is the sort of thing I would normally consider 3 line whip BUT my elder two teenagers are away on holiday anyway, its my younger son's birthday, and I really wanted either a calm weekend either getting ready for the job and the new school year or working on the thesis. DH has already his canceled his regular September weekend away to help us get in to the new routine.
My family is clearly surprised I am not saying yes - they seem to be waiting for me to change my mind. AIBU?