just saw my mother. I'm 37 weeks pg. Mil always, always says how gorgeous I and bump look, even when I'm convinced the opposite must be true. In 14 years of knowing her she must have made two comments that have upset me. My mother walks through the door and says "well you're not getting any slimmer are you?". I know she doesn't mean to but she'll always make these comments that can be at best misconstrued. Apparently, dc who sat and coloured, ordered and ate from a menu for two hours yesterday at a restaurant (5 and 2.5) were " quite good really". Just twigged that the build up of small trivial put downs might be why she's not my first port of call to chat to or rely on. It is in addition to a lack of respect for confidentiality but the drip drip of these comments is really wearing.