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To end it

222 replies

Flojo1979 · 11/01/2011 21:36

My boyfriend came to stay this wkend as it usually the case. I wish he'd stay forever but he "likes his space". On friday he was ill, throwing up, he stayed in bed all day and i looked after my kids whilst checking on him and asking him if he wanted anything etc. By next day i was sick as a dog too. But had to get up and look after my kids and muddle thro. I tutted and sighed along the way, while bf sat on sofa all day not lifting a finger and complaining he still felt ill. In end i said u could at least try to help me, he replied they r your kids stop being a bitch and shut your mouth. I told him i would not be spoken to like that and told him to leave, he replied if he left he wouldnt come back, to which i burst in to tears and begged him to stop being a bully and stay. He left with some sneering parting shot.
I've been with him a year and keep thinking no one is perfect so maybe i should put up n shut up??

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TattyDevine · 11/01/2011 21:37

Dump him.

Thingumy · 11/01/2011 21:37

Do you really need to ask? You want your children around this piece of scum?

Get rid of the fucker.

jonicomelately · 11/01/2011 21:38

You deserve better than to be treated like that surely? Get rid.

TheVisitor · 11/01/2011 21:38

Tell him to jog on! He sounds like a right charmer tbh. You'd be better without someone being a complete knob towards you. You can do better than that. Why settle for a shit when Mr Lovely may be out there waiting?

BusyMissIzzy · 11/01/2011 21:38

Calling you a bitch and telling you to shut your mouth goes way beyond "not perfect". Nobody deserves to be treated like that. YANBU to end it. At all.

DaphneHeartsFred · 11/01/2011 21:39

:(

Bastard. Get rid of him.

BringOnTheGoat · 11/01/2011 21:39

Did he say this in front of your DC? If yes - do you want them to grow up around this? They will think it's ok to speak to people like dirt. If no - what heppens when he does talk like it in front of your DC!?!

Either ways you're better off without this lazy, nasty and selfish man in your life. Put YOU first Smile

cobbledtogether · 11/01/2011 21:40

Put up and shut up with someone who treats you badly when you are ill?

Nah, you are worth more than that.

alicet · 11/01/2011 21:40

Sorry but he is a bullying wanker. A bullying non-committing wanker to boot.

Do you really want you kids to grow up thinking that this is a reasonable way to treat people / be treated?

YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!

iloveyankees · 11/01/2011 21:41

dump his arse you deserve way better imo and you don't want your kids learning that shit from him either

expatinscotland · 11/01/2011 21:42

DTMFA.

dump the mother fucker already.

He's an abusive waste of space.

madonnawhore · 11/01/2011 21:42

Don't think about taking him back. He blew it big time.

IAmTheCookieMonster · 11/01/2011 21:44

Dump him, don't even do it nicely, just send a text saying "i've changed my mind, don't come back"

mishymoshy · 11/01/2011 21:44

bin

cruelladepoppins · 11/01/2011 21:45

"stop being a bitch and shut your mouth"???????

If this is his normal style of interaction you are well rid. (Sorry.)

Yes, no-one is perfect but you don't have to put up with shit.

Or maybe the lurgy was making you both a bit tired and intolerant? In which case you should be able to talk it through.

bumpybecky · 11/01/2011 21:45

dump him

TragicallyHip · 11/01/2011 21:46

No one should put up and shut up! If he doesn't want to help out with your kids he never will.

Get rid, he is not worth it!

echt · 11/01/2011 21:50

Tired and intolerant? No excuse.

How to "talk through" calling the OP a bitch beats me. It's not like it slips out, is it? His follow up on shutting her mouth seems quite a considered response to me

Dump him. Delete his number from your phone. Block his calls.

He's vile.

MissBeehiving · 11/01/2011 21:54

What a twat. Tell him to piss off.

hoops997 · 11/01/2011 21:57

expat I read that as dump the mother fucking asshole!!!!

BingoSpotDotter · 11/01/2011 21:58

C'mon love. Surely you don't think it's ok. Tosspot, get rid. You deserve better, as does anyone. You look after him, he looks after you (and yours).

How old is he?

FrequentNutter · 11/01/2011 21:59

Ive to agree with the others, there was no need for him to talk to you like that at all.

You would be better of alone than with someone who thinks so little of you

CupcakesHay · 11/01/2011 22:01

Dump him - he's a bully and you don't want someone like that in your life, let alone your kids life.

Flojo1979 · 11/01/2011 22:01

Thanks guys. I know what i have to do. I'm just so weak and scared of being on my own. I've lost all my confidence and hate how pathetic i sound :-(

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charliesmommy · 11/01/2011 22:03

I would rather be on my own and wait to meet a decent person than have some piece of shit treating me like shit. Have some self respect woman!!! :O

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