"but that doesnt stop you sorting me out does it?"

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In brief, mine and DPs sex life isnt the best. We have a nearly 2 y/o and having a tough time with his sleeping habits. We both also work f/t and are both often too tired to do anything, but when we do its great. No real complaints so far.

However, I have had thrush for about 3 - 4 days, very sore, very swollen, very itchy and just generally a bit miserable with it but hopefully its going away.

All last night DP is saying/hinting how I should have another drink and get pissed, and another, and "oooh the boy is tired maybe he will sleep for us tonight" to a generally less tactful "is your fanny still itching, maybe we can have an early night?".

I explain that not only am I still resisting the urge not to get a scouring pad, but he can catch it too and just pass it back to me if we did anything and sorry but I just dont think its the best idea.

He whinges that the one time for a little while that we get chance I have an excuse. I agree that yes it is shit that the one time we are BOTH awake I happen to have this.

Then, he says "well that doesnt stop you sorting me out does it?". I changed the subject, ignored him and he kept saying it.

We got to bed and more of the same, pawing me, grabbing hold of my hand and asking if that had thrush etc and eventually he tired of it and left me alone.

AIBU to now feel a bit offended by how he spoke to me? I felt like saying to him, yea I'll sort you out, now leave £20 on the nightstand.....

(namechange btw)

my EXH was the same. I don't know how I stuck it for so long. It was exhausting and demeaning. I think the final straw was when he said "it won't suck itself"! Also he blamed me for not being very enthusiastic/not enjoying it. NorwegainMoon, as you feel like that, wouldn't it be better to seperate?

Love stuffingoldbrass's handy checklist

This post has made me realise two things;

1. There are some women who appear to think that the only way to show affection/love to a man is through sexual activity.

2. My DH is a decent bloke who has respect for me.

Oh and OP - YANBU.

For those that think she should have 'sorted him out' there is a world of difference the situation described and one where he might have asked, with concern and interest, is she was any better, hinting by this he was interested in some loving, and then when he found out she wasn't it'd of been OK for him to shown signs of disappointment as long as there was acceptance and understanding that it wasn't happening because of the discomfort and lack of mutual enjoyment.

This sort of reaction from him might have achieved a bit of kissing and cuddling and a possible wiggly jiggly hand action. But who knows because he choose to act like an immature teenager whose too dense/selfish to understand that a relationship is a two way thing.

OMG... "it won't suck itself"

followed by ... "it won't grow back" ...after I snap it off in a red rage.

I didn't suck it that time or ever again. Divorced. Wonder if I should have put it in the divorce papers as part of the unreasonable behaviour.

OP: Are you married to my ex?!

I find it amazing that there are so many posters on this thread who've been with people with the same attitude as the OP's H.....

How the hell did I miss this thread until now, it has it all, really, it's a thing of beauty.

'I am woman, hear me roar'

I have tears, tears are streaming