Just to put this in to context.
We rent privately. Our flat is falling apart. Landlord has refused to fix anything, to the point where we had to call in Environmental Health.
Here's where it gets really fun.
Landlord wasn't happy about this, so he turned up and threatened my DH (who has severe mental health problems).
Paramedics were called (DH attempted suicide), and police were called.
Both environmental health and the letting agents told the landlord not to do it again, especially as he hadn't given us any notice that he was coming round; breach of contract.
That day we packed our stuff and went somewhere safe, telling the letting agents so they could call us on our mobiles. Two days later DH has calmed down enough for us to go back to the flat and get some supplies.
Guess who turns up again? The landlord tries to let himself in, but we'd luckily put the bolt across. And he was yelling abuse at us and hammering at the door.
Fucked up right?
Now everyone agrees he's a freak and totally in the wrong, but some have said
"well, to be fair to him, he didn't think you were in, he thought you'd gone away"
To be fair to him?? So it's better that he was going to deliberately turn up at our home without telling us and let himself in?? How??
We've barely been able to go back to our flat since in case he turns up again. But I am seriously worried about him letting himself in while we are away. We've had to leave all our stuff there, and our pet rats.
Seriously, AIBU to think "he thought you weren't there" does not make it any better?