to feel a bit brushed off?

[mumbar]

I am totally exhausted at the moment. Not sure why but I look very pale too.

At work today my boss asked me how I was, conversationally, and I said I just felt tired and overwhelmed at the minute and was relived I had no time for a breakdown as I might just have one.

OK I said it jokingly but I was just trying to hint that I'm stuggling.

He replied ' well you can have 2 weeks off at xmas, you'll feel better then'

Now he knows I'm a coper and I have a lot of responsibilities and I know that perhaps if I went in to see him they would give me support, although I'm not a 'whinger' and do tend to just get on with it.

AIBU to think he should have offered me some 'talk' time?

OK so IABU but just need to rant .

Well, not much point in hinting, some people just don't get the hints. Especially as you made your point in a jokey way. Often people make jokes about being overwhelmed at work when they don't seriously mean they are overwhelmed, just that they are busy. Particularly as you are known as a coper, he will just assume you can cope. Why don't you ask for a one-to-one and speak to him directly?

Its not really work - I'm not sure what it is I'm just totally exhausted TBH theres not really much I can say - Its a school so can't just take a few days off. He is right the xmas hols will be a chance to take stock - except I have a uni assignment due in January

Problem is you said it jokingly - if you had said seriously "Well, I'm exhausted to be honest, not sure why" that would have opened the door for a proper conversation possibly?

Thinking about it, if someone answered a query of mine in the way you describe I may well accept it at face value - sort of jokey. It's not that I'm not perceptive (think I'm reasonably well tuned) but if I'm busy and working at maximum capacity too then I may miss signals.

So maybe a wee bit unreasonable?

Try to have a proper chat with him.

stop being a quiet martyr you want to talk? speak up.boss isnt psychic

if coper means soldiering on against the odds you need to be more adept at saying whats going on.not hoping a hint does the trick

Thanks, I know I was being unreasonable just needed a quick rant . I'm just tired, overtired I think because I'm trying to have early nights and just not getting to sleep. I have decided to have a few study free evenings (I'm doing OU degree) and tonight will have a bath and a bit of a pamper when DS is in bed, and watch I'm a celebrity on laptop in bed and will probably doze off.

Just gave myself a bit of a kick up the jacksey about having a night off

Good plan Mumbar - except the "I'm a Sleb" bit

There's plenty of other trashy TV to choose from!!

Yes realised it wasn't on so went to bed a 8.45pm and watched Harry Potter on DVD to remind myself for when the new one is released on DVD.

Have a few early nights & get some berocca or equivalent. I find in old age I need 3 or 4 early nights on the trot to get "right" whereas I used to only need one Berocca is the stuff though esp. at this time of year.

Quick trip to the GP to rule out anaemia etc. might be in order.

I am aneamic as such but chronically - iron count is usually 11.4 ish. I have just had my period which was quite heavy so maybe thats what it is?
I'll get some berocca thanks for the tip.
I'm feeling a little better today but going for an early night again.

Thanks for the sympathy ladies - sometimes thats all it takes

Sleep well mumbar hope you feel a bit better tomorrow.