to not find it funny

[tinky19]

My DH has just come home from working on the moors whilst DS and i were having a bath and has said 'well, it's a bit much, you've had all day to have a bath but you chose the time i come in and want a shower' now i'm upset but he says he was just joking. Maybe having a 4 month old to look after has made me lose my sense of humour? Any way, just want him to say 'sorry, but i was only joking' instead he's gone all grumpy and so have i

well he does have a point...

Maybe a little thoughtless...agree he does have a point...perhaps you could say sorry first,then it won't need to be grumpy

yabu, i agree with your husband but did you not know what time he was coming in? if you did know then is it not a bit thoughtless/selfish of you, not him??

No I did not know what time he was due in, and having prepared his tea, tidied house, looked after 4month old all day I don't think a bath to help settle DS for bed at 6pm is unreasonable! Why should I say sorry?

Wow, people are mental! YANBU at all! Why should you have to vacate the bathroom just because 'the man of the house' wants a shower? Very old fashioned view ladies!

My DH would have made me a nice cup of tea while he was waiting for his shower.

I would say YANBU.

Even if he needed a shower or a bath...he could have waited 5 mins for you two to get out?

Surely a grown man can wait for 5 (or 10!) mins for a shower?

Without a need to make a point about 'Oh you've been at home ALL DAY' type comment

Cos we all know how irritating those kind of comments (or implied comments) are...

Divorce him

Blimey. YANBU. Tell him he's being a grumpy git.