Anyone else's families think they exggerate their dc's allergies. How do you deal with it?

[Whelk]

Some of the granparents of my dds seem to be in some sort of denial about my dds allergies (dd1 to egg, dd2 to milk and egg). We have an epipen for dd2's allergies.

They give me the strong impression that they think we are exaggerating it all. They have never seen a reaction.

Perhaps it is their way of dealing with it?

It's important to me that the dds have a relationship with their granparents. They are generally good grandparents and i believe that the dds benefit enormously from positive relationships with extended family.

How do I get the grandparents to take it really seriously so that we might feel comfortable leaving them (without a packed lunch for dd2- or is this just too ambitious)

mumbar, hope the exam goes well

Looks like next week's Emmerdale has a plotline relevant to this thread:
"...Speaking about the plot, Ghawam-Shahidi commented: "It's Leyla's fault because she hasn't listened to her sister's warnings about not letting Jacob eat anything because of his nut allergy.

"Alicia's told her several times that she must watch Jacob like a hawk but Leyla's like 'Yeah, whatever!' It's a situation that could have been avoided if only she'd listened to Alicia."

Thanks greenbananas - been and had swabs taken, going for an ultrasound but considering it could be scar tissue from my ecs 6 years ago.