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Hopingforthebest26 · 20/08/2026 23:51

Hi group.

Please is anyone able to share positive feedback/experiences of your loved one getting help for alcohol dependency.

The circs:
My partner has admitted to being dependent on alcohol. He can go all day without it but craves it after a working day. But admits to not knowing when to stop.

There is no abuse of any kind and he is a loving kind and thoughtful man but admit he has to lie about his drinking and hides it.

I understand it takes a lot for anyone to admit they have this illness so I am prepared to stand by him and support him.

He had already cut down by 50% but every few weeks he will have one too many.

He has health conditions which alcohol doesn’t help at all and at high risk of heart attack or stroke already.

He has taken the step to self refer to CGL and we are going there on the weekend.

I want to believe he will change but words mean nothing without action.

Alcohol intake: Mon-Thurs 4 cans of beer. Fri-Sun 8 can of beer. It may not sound like a lot but given his medical conditions (Type 2 diabetic, high cholesterol, Alcohol cardiomyopathy, fatty liver) this is not good for him.

Anyone able to share positive success story with alcoholic partner reducing/cutting out alcohol for the better?

TIA

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Hopingforthebest26 · 21/08/2026 21:03

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MagicalCrocodile · 25/08/2026 00:23

Hi! I don't have the same experience as I'm the partner in this situation and drank a lot more. I got up one day after worrying a lot about my drinking, including a fear that it was going to kill me and did the Annie Grace 30 Day alcohol experiment. Found it really helpful. I've stuck with it, not far off 100 days alcohol free now. My partner didn't drink to excess but now has a half zero alcohol with half a pint so has halved his alcohol consumption. Maybe either of these routes as a starter? Good luck. I know it's a real worry.

fuchsteufelswild · 25/08/2026 22:03

You said it, the first step is to admit he has a problem. Has he spoken to his GP?

You can help by not drinking alcohol around him and being supportive when he's actively seeking help, but that's about it. You said "we" would go to CGL so you both went? How did it go?

hopingforthebest266 · 28/08/2026 04:33

@fuchsteufelswildwent to dr who advised to contact CGL. Went CGL who have booked him in with their gp next week.

fuchsteufelswild · 28/08/2026 20:19

Oh sorry I misunderstood, if he told his GP then that's encouraging. Fingers crossed they'll be able to help. Is he sober or still drinking? Would he be open to a support group? Doesn't have to be AA.

Maybe you too might consider going to one.. Al Anon isn't the only one, I think SMART Recovery has those for loved ones as well. Hoping for good news come next week😊

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