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I am done. Anyone fancy joining me?

210 replies

Rupertpenrysmistress · 07/12/2021 07:49

So I have an alcohol problem. Have done for years, Christmas may not be the best time to stop but I have to. It's killing me and destroying my family. I will take today to make my plan. I already have all the quit books just need to do it now.

Any long term sober people have any tips for me? I guess at the moment it's hour by hour.

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fenulla · 10/12/2021 09:00

@Rupertpenrysmistress

Hi fenulla how are you doing now? I last drank on Monday but feel shocking today still.
Hi Rupertpennysmistress Thank you. Sorry you're still feeling rough last night I did drink because i find wine to be the best (albeit worst) way to kill a hangover I'm going out tonight and I'll be happy to not drink while I'm out (also driving which helps) To be brutally honest I find it much easier to abstain when I'm out with friends than when I'm at home. That's a bit embarrassing to admit to I would like for this to be the first day of enduring sobriety
AppleBottomedJeans · 11/12/2021 20:17

Hi how are you doing?

fenulla · 11/12/2021 21:07

Yesterday and today were fine. No alcohol taken
Was out last night and I was tired and get a bit left out but I was t tempted to drink and I was enormously pleased this morning that I hadn't
How are you doing ?

fenulla · 11/12/2021 21:33

The alcohol experiment thing is a faff though
I think I'm going to just bother you lovelies with my ramblings 😁

bellalou1234 · 11/12/2021 21:38

I'll join you op..

fenulla · 11/12/2021 21:44

@bellalou1234

I'll join you op..
Hi bellalou
Eliphanbee · 11/12/2021 21:50

I decided to stop for a year sfyet a particularly bad hangover, and did it for charity to make myself accountable.
its been 3 years and haven't wanted to.deibi since, life is so much better without it.
drank af beer at first, Heineken is very realistic tasting! read 'the unexpected joy of being sober"
followed a page called 'club soda'..lots of support on its Facebook page..there is also 'oneyearnobeer' and other methods of support. if o can.do.it, you can..its so worth it!

Eliphanbee · 11/12/2021 21:51

sorry re typos!

Rupertpenrysmistress · 11/12/2021 23:08

Hi all, doing ok thanks. Feel better today. Not tempted yet! I know what you mean about wine easing a hangover fenulla

still feel unsure how I will manage Christmas but, one day at a time. Mind you I desperately need to loose weight so stopping wine will help, I am the biggest I have ever been 😯.

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fenulla · 12/12/2021 08:10

@Eliphanbee

I decided to stop for a year sfyet a particularly bad hangover, and did it for charity to make myself accountable. its been 3 years and haven't wanted to.deibi since, life is so much better without it. drank af beer at first, Heineken is very realistic tasting! read 'the unexpected joy of being sober" followed a page called 'club soda'..lots of support on its Facebook page..there is also 'oneyearnobeer' and other methods of support. if o can.do.it, you can..its so worth it!
That's brilliant. So encouraging
fenulla · 12/12/2021 08:19

Rupertpenrysmistress
I had a dry Christmas last year and I loved it. I fucked up on nye because I couldn't resist the champagne
All we can do is try and keep learning eh?
I too, read the unexpected joy of being sober, this naked mind, girl walks out of a bar (brilliant), drinking; a love story, dryland, cold turkey, the sober diaries and tried a Craig beck hypno cd,
Various degrees of success
Some excellent works, some mixed, some experience of needing to overcome something really irritating about an author in order to benefit from some of what they say
Day 3 here. Not worried unless I start craving when she gets his white wine out

excitedemmi · 12/12/2021 09:52

Also joining on not drinking. Got way too drunk last night and suffering for it today, and I just can't keep going on like this. I have a problem.

htfdth · 12/12/2021 10:15

I'll join you all if you don't mind, today will be day one. I've had several failed attempts but I absolutely have to stop. I'm using alcohol as an emotional crutch and it's a way of blocking out reality for me. Thing is I must face the reality for me and my children, it's a crap time to stop drinking but I can't just have one so I need to have none. 😕

excitedemmi · 12/12/2021 10:24

@htfdth this is me too!

htfdth · 12/12/2021 10:42

@excitedemmi well at least we have realised it has to stop. That's a start ☺️ I seem to get to about 4/5 pm and start thinking f*ck it I'm having a glass of wine. Thing is I never used to drink!! I'm sabotaging myself doing so and not facing the reality.. it's all become a bit of a mess.

fenulla · 12/12/2021 18:20

@excitedemmi

Also joining on not drinking. Got way too drunk last night and suffering for it today, and I just can't keep going on like this. I have a problem.
Hello. 💖
fenulla · 12/12/2021 18:26

[quote htfdth]**@excitedemmi* well at least we have realised it has to stop. That's a start ☺️ I seem to get to about 4/5 pm and start thinking fck it I'm having a glass of wine. Thing is I never used to drink!! I'm sabotaging myself doing so and not facing the reality.. it's all become a bit of a mess. [/quote]
Hello 💖

Mild
Craving because I'm a bit hungry, and DH is on the Sauvignon blanc
God, doesn't everyone bang on about drinking at this time of year? 🙄😆
Anyway, I decided I want to run in the morning, and that won't happen if I have wine so I'm really enjoying some REAL Kombucha blush and writing Christmas cards

Alcemeg · 12/12/2021 18:41

For various reasons, over the past 3 years I've got into the habit of drinking heavily when I do drink: instead of stopping at a couple of glasses of wine, that's really when I get into the swing of it. It doesn't help that my husband enjoys a drink and is brilliant company so we will sit there swigging away for hours.

Drink really isn't my friend, though. It often makes me feel sorry for myself all of a sudden and start listing everything wrong in my life. As for the next day, ugh! I know this all too well today, because having been on a health kick for the past month we had a few drinks last night and I feel like shit. Definitely poisoned. It doesn't help that when I drink, I also like to smoke. Double whammy! I don't even think about smoking when I'm not drinking, but the minute I have a glass of wine in one hand it feels wrong not to have a fag in the other.

Having those drinks last night turned a great weekend into a mediocre one because I feel too wiped out to do much today. Also not enjoying the embarrassment about last night's shenanigans. We rang four people we hardly know and invited them for Xmas!!!!!!!!!

I'd been really enjoying our health kick and noticed how much better my sleep is when I don't drink at all. No more waking in the middle of the night fretting about things. So I'm actually happy to be getting back on the wagon again.

I have a friend's birthday (via Zoom) coming up and saved half a bottle of wine to toast her with. The only thing stopping me from pouring it down the sink is the feeling that I don't want to be the odd one out not having a glass in my hand on the call, not entering into the spirit of the occasion.

There's a bottle of champagne in the cupboard waiting for Xmas, but I'm not sure I want to drink it even then! The trouble is that I love champagne and by the end of the bottle I will probably be wanting more. I wonder whether to just keep it in the cupboard as a reminder that I don't want to open it, if that makes sense.

Grrrr alcohol ☠ 💩☠

fenulla · 12/12/2021 18:44

Great post Alcemeg

Holothane · 12/12/2021 18:49

Good luck literally an hour by hour at the moment don’t even think of next week at the moment, hugs I’m dry 9 or 10 years yesterday so know exactly how your feeling,.

Alcemeg · 12/12/2021 18:50

Thanks @fenulla!

What you said above:
Craving because I'm a bit hungry
is something I've really noticed lately. Wanting a drink often goes away once I eat something.

And you're right, fitness goals are definitely a great help. Having a sober month (discounting last night) has really helped me to actually start seeing some improvements, instead of everything being sabotaged at intervals by rampages and recovery.

Also, entering 1.5 bottles of wine on Cronometer.com made my eyes water when I saw the calories. Blimey!

Rupertpenrysmistress · 12/12/2021 19:29

Great so that's a few of us. It really is tough though. I felt so good this morning getting up for the first time in ages, day 6 today. I had a lovely passion fruit soda when I was out Friday evening and it was really nice, I was offered prosecco and am so glad I refused.

I am not saying I won't be tempted or trip up, so not getting cocky yet. Just trying to celebrate the small wins. What is everyone else doing to deal with cravings or drinking instead?

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excitedemmi · 12/12/2021 19:46

Passion fruit soda sounds amazing! I'm only on day 1, but planning on getting nice treats like chocolate muffins or sweets to treat myself when I'm wanting alcohol. I'm considering featuring exercise somewhere in there too, but that might be hard in December (and with two babies).

Rupertpenrysmistress · 12/12/2021 21:21

Alcemeg that sounds like me and DH, he does not really drink but when he does I feel like it gives me the green light, we sit for hours listening to old music and drinking. In fact that was my last drinking session and honestly it took me 5 days to recover. I started to panic that I has liver damage, probably alcohol poisoning at least the way I felt.

I love running but stopped because I always feel 'off' so really want to start again. I hate that paranoid, anxious 2am wake up, going over all my bad points and worrying about who I messaged 😩. It is so strange because when I have had a run of no alcohol I feel amazing and confident. It really is self sabotage.

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Rupertpenrysmistress · 12/12/2021 21:23

excitedemmi how old are your DC? I realised early on that children have no respect for a hangover 🤣. I recently got some kettleballs from Amazon and do 20 minute workouts on YouTube. That might work I know how difficult it can be to exercise with DC.

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