Roses are red, we like Becks Blue, Tryers to be Dryers push on through. 2019 will be our Valentine.

[Frouby]

Thread 4 for support, tips, tricks and friendship as we reduce our alcohol intake even more. For anyone who wants to reduce, stop, moderate or even just track their drinking.

Absolutely no judgement, just support. Everyone welcome.

Previous threads somewhere but am rubbish at clicky links.

Old tryers and new dryers, welcome to our thread. The one that starts in February and will see us all hit our goals as we move forwards.

Ds2 is absolutely fine Dion. There's absolutely no reason he couldn;t have gone to school today apart from the 48 hour rule, the fact he's a stickler, and I was too tired for the fight this morning, so I rolled over, thought 'them's the rules...' and went back to sleep fo an hour.
Whatever I'd done I'd have felt guilty, so might as well get the extra sleep...

Five loos!! My marital home only had one, which DS2 always needed t use the minute I got into the bath. Agree on not being married to a shit though.

I think the hypno is starting to work. I've definitely cut back on the eating and drinking ('m going for both). The drawback is I seem to be feeling the things I eat and drink to suppress a bit more, but I'm back there again tomorrow, so maybe he can do some magic around that.

Day three here. Feel free to lavish me with praise! It's been a while.

Consider yourself lavished with praise NC flossie seems I meant today not tomorrow, sorry. I can’t even get days of the week straight, I felt crappy for a few days, early waking etc. Period again about 5 minutes after last on finished. FML

NC wow3 days is amazeballs, cant remember the last time I did 3 days. I should be on day 2 here but life happened so on the gin after a fanny fattening lager. Sigh. 1 lager, 2 gins. Not horrendous but not dry. Fuck sake.

Been busy here. Worked all day, then ds swimming then the usual chaos around feeding the dcs, ds bedtime, yada yada yada.

Dh cooking our tea though so result. It's the steak he didn't cook Saturday so it was his cook anyway, just delayed a couple of days.

Just been discussing mothers day plans. Have said I want dh and the dcs to cook me a sunday roast and wash up afterwards. Am not sure it's worth the drama, they are already bickering over whl is doing what. Ds is so sweet though, he said he will wash the pots and peel the potatoes cos it's mummies special day.

But when its special kids days can he wash the pots and peel the potatoes because hes always wanted to wash pots and peel potatoes.

He also wants me to have anothet baby so we can make a youtube channel about the baby in my tummy 😂😂😂.

Oh Frouby. I take it you will be producing another baby just for this reason

NC4, Day 3. FML. I'd be happy with Hour 3, so consider yourself lavished on Day 3. Funnily my DD suddenly becomes a stickler for the school rules in the case of random puking.

Great that the hypno might be working. I bought Allen Carr yesterday, though fuck knows why.

So I was an epic fail this weekend as predicted. Only 3 glasses of wine on Friday....but then basically drank from midday until bedtime on both Saturday and Sunday. And despite being determined not to drink tonight and now one gin and 4 glasses of wine in.....

Hand-holding, Swarskid. A month of epic fails for me...

Dion
Hand hold back. It is good to know I am not alone in this madness. However hard I try to think AF....my hand just reaches for the bottle

Am not dry. DP's birthday so an excuse but not a very good one.
Dion I found Allen Carr great for helping stop smoking but not for drinking. Because he was a smoker but never a drinker. I hope it works better for you!
NC4 Day is brilliant
Swarkid I hope you get back on the wagon
Frouby when is mothers day? It is in June here in France. Not sure if that means I should get 2 as I'm British. I usually don't even get one!

I rated Allen Carr for quitting the fags too. Mother’s Day is this Sunday coming. My boys are at their dad’s till teatime but I’ve booked for us all to go out for tea with my mum in the evening.
You should definitely get two Anglaise.

Frouby - again pmsl at your post. Your ds wanting a baby so he can make a YouTube channel!!

Swarskid and Dion - hand hold here. Completely Get the wowzer comment at day 3. I too am struggling. Still not a dry night since about November!! Fml

Dion - please, you must remember you are NOT pathetic. You are here with us all because you too have faced utter crap in your life. We will get through this. I know we will.

As for me. Pissed again!! Dd2 did great this morn. Managed school. Then took her to a hosp appointment this pm, went well. A really positive day so I thought. Actually relished the feeling of normality. She was exhausted though. Popped into supermarket on way home to grab dinner things. Then suddenly dd stops breathing again!! Fml a billion times over. Ffs!! She’d said her throat felt Wierd so I got back to the car and that’s when it happened!! So there I was, in Sainsbury car park, drawing up medication through a syringe while she was on a nebuliser in my front seat!! Ffs!! I’d had a good day. We’d both had a good day!! So fucked off!! Poor baby!!
She’s fine now. Tired but fine. The emotional rollercoaster is hell. Anyone in RL that asks why I drink, need to worry!!

Hello all. First Flossie, I am so sorry you and DD had another scare. I am glad you had a moment of levity though.

Dion too, big hugs for the tough times. And NC4 for the vomit.

Busy weekend with friend staying, march and bad DH health. March was good thanks Anglaise, but am still in a kind of existential despair about it all, and the climate too after being roped into being a focus group for extinction rebellion this evening. Dd1 is hysterical over dentist appointment tomorrow and mil is here fanning the flames. Wine has been consumed.

Friend sent me link to new house she is buying. Is best part of 3 million quif. Wtaf? We used to be colleagues but I jacked it in for moral high ground public sector job. Lol. Not that I particularly want a £3m house. Mine is fine, it just needs a bit of maintenance when I can be bothered getting round to it. I am not sure what would cheer me really, other than an uncomplicated family life and a secure future for the world!

Who the hell could be arsed cleaning a 3 million quid house? Actually I’m guessing they could afford cleaners. That is 23 times the price of my house 😂
How the other half live, eh?
Hugs to Flossie. How does DD cope emotionally when she has an attack? DS2 has such terrible anxiety over his health he gets in an absolute panic. The other night when he woke up to puke he was running round screaming, not bothered that he was butt naked, just terrified.
It’s so hard to stay calm in that sort of situation I’ve no idea how you do it, having to give meds and nebulisers etc at the drop of a hat.
I would be doing in a bottle of wine after that kind of scare too.

Anglaise Mother’s Day is 31 March and this year in the UK. I get three - UK, my family’s nationality and the country we live in. But in reality that equals none, cause I don’t organise it so it doesn’t happen.

Can I join. I want tonight to be the last night I sit here alone very happily drinking my wine and living life through reality tv shows. Which is great until I decide oh yes I should ring "inset name" and tell them my unwanted views on work situation. And then I decide I absolutely must text "person I knew ages ago" and give them my unwanted views on their relationship status.

Oh the horrid shame I have felt waking in the morning. The absolute shame . I drink so much it is only in the morning that I know that I have done these things when I look at my texts. I am utterly horrified and I am thinking how on earth will I ever look at these people again. I don't even mean what I am saying !

But I wake in the morning physically fine. I get up and go with the world no matter what I drank the night before. But what happens when you have sent people nasty texts the night before. I do that too. Its an absolutely horrible situation.

But this is because wine is wiseness. !! And oh yes. Wine makes you fat. I have absolutely refused to buy a bigger size...so I am now the idiot walking around the floor in the size 2 sizes too small who is clearly uncomfortable and now looking like they actually live under a bridge. So here I am. I honestly don't know if I will revisit this thread. These paragraphs are hard enough. But I don't want to be the person I am now. I don't want to give up alchohol. But I want a better version of this person that alcholol makes me now..

Lotuslots - welcome. You really are welcome and you really must stay and share this journey together. We are all walking the same/similar path. You’ve come to the right place

Lotus welcome. I’ve been here since January and I think it’s made me more mindful of drinking in general. I think I’ve make some improvements and I have more AF days than before. I still drink way over recommended levels every week.
I think ways to tackle it are dependant on lots of factors. Do you live alone? Welcome again.

Hi Lotus. You’ve come to the right place. Plenty of support here, and none of us are perfect.

I’m looking forward to my second hypno session tonight. I think I’ve seen a change this week. I’ve had 5 AF days in the last week. Still managed to put away three bottles of wine, so that’s the next challenge, but it’s a start.

Hi tryers!

Was thinking about this thread the other day but couldn't find it. The ap I mentioned a few pages ago has been helping. I'm on 12 AF days this month but got HORRIFICALLY pissed at our company away weekend on Saturday and made an arse of myself in front of one of the american directors

Currently hiding behind my work PC as I still have the fear.

thisname congrats on the 12 days. This is the thing though right? With our efforts do we really change? It’s something I’m thinking about a lot. You did great, did you ‘did you let yourself go’ more because of the control you found? Did you go back to your old ways once you were 3 drinks in within a drink filled place?
For me it’s always possible - total-twat-situation.

lotus did you read after you posted? You said you might not. It was a brave post. Perhaps come back and tell us something about what you are feeling now?

did you ‘did you let yourself go’ more because of the control you found

I almost felt like 'this is fine because I'll go back to not drinking tomorrow'. But it was not fine! I was so so drunk I've lost about an hour and a half but I know from my WhatsApps to DP that I embarrassed myself

Because that’s a different kind of issue right? To many units and the binge shit. I have both so I’m trying to unpick it.

I was doing 4 days a week AF this time last year, then a couple of drinks on a Thursday, then binging Friday and Saturday. Now I probably have 1 or 2 nights AF but according to my app, rarely exceed 28 units a week spread over 5 or 6 days.

So although it's still too much, I think its better than 6 units followed by 20, followed by another 20.

Not dry tonight. Took the dcs shopping for uniform and shoes after school. Ds needed new shoes and new trousers as he has outgrown his. Dd wanted new skirts.

Dd went on her own with £20 and an instruction to get 2 skirts. To try M and S (but phone if she needed more money), Asda, Matalan and Primark. Me and ds went, had him measured for shoes and bought some, went in Smyths for a birthday present for his friend, went in M and S and bought trousers, shorts, socks and had a browse through sale stuff.

Dd phoned. She's been in new look, next, h and m and river island but can't find a skirt. Had she been in any of the shops I said? No. Did she want to look in m and s now? No cos they are eggy. Matalan? No, too scruffy. Asda? No, too cheap.

Fml. She hasnt got the skirts because I lost the will to live. So she can go to the big shopping centre at the weekend or I will order online. Hate uniform shopping or any kind of clothes shopping with dd. Shes a bloody nightmare.

So I spent £20 on seeds in wilcos to destress as well as some salted chocolate fudge which is lush btw and only 85p for a decent bag.

Was planning on AF but dh had some bad news about an old friend who has died suddenly. So he's as pissed as a fart, on and off the phone in between looking sad and generally being maudlin. Its sad but he hadn't seen him for years so am losing patience. Especially as most of it is because he's 6 cans in. Sigh, I am such a bitch I know. But am not good at tea and sympathy. Unless its a g and t, which it now is.

Goes to the point frouby that the AF days as useful as they are and useful to an extent only tell us so much?
(Fucking clothes shopping nightmare aside)

Well .. I think what that means is...some of us manage to drink rather a lot even with the AF days